After get off work on the weekend, Fang Hanmin went straight to the restaurant where he and Yu Dongmei often met. Before Yu Dongmei arrived, he chose a table in the corner and sat down to wait.
Ten minutes later, Yu Dongmei appeared in front of Fang Hanmin, "You're already here, right? It's not easy to take a taxi during off-duty hours, so you've been kept waiting for a long time."
"It's not a long wait. I've only been here a few minutes. Let's sit down and order."
They hadn't seen each other for almost three months, and there was a gap between the two. Yu Dongmei sat down opposite, looking a little reserved, "Why, haven't you ordered yet?"
"Waiting for you, ladies first."
When Fang Hanmin said this, he wanted to adjust the atmosphere, but Yu Dongmei didn't expect that she didn't think so, "Fang Hanmin, our relationship hasn't come to an end yet, why are you so polite to me?"
"Dongmei, where did you think you were? I didn't mean to be polite to you. We haven't been here for more than three months. The restaurant seems to have added some new dishes. I want you to see if there is anything you like." Fang Hanmin He explained hurriedly.
"Okay, it's not easy to meet. Let's not argue with each other. If you have to ask me to order first, I won't be polite." Yu Dongmei ordered two dishes that she often eats, and then handed over the menu. To Fang Hanmin.
Today's meal was destined to be not easy. Fang Hanmin lost interest in the dishes on the menu and ordered two items casually, "Would you like some wine?"
"What do you think? Drink some."
While waiting, Fang Hanmin asked casually: "Have a good Spring Festival? How are your parents?"
This sentence unintentionally brought up Yu Dongmei's sadness. She smiled bitterly and said: "My parents are in good health. Do you think I can have a happy Spring Festival?"
Fang Hanmin was left speechless by the question. Fortunately, he caught up with the waiter to serve the food, which diluted the awkward atmosphere on the table.
The dishes are placed on the table, and the waiter pours wine for the guests, "Are both glasses filled?"
Yu Dongmei volunteered and said, "Yes, fill them all up."
"Dongmei, can you drink? Don't get drunk." Fang Hanmin knew that today's meeting was not just about drinking and eating, but about serious topics. He was afraid that like last time, Yu Dongmei would use the wine to show off.
"Don't worry, I won't get drunk. Now I've figured it out. Even if I get drunk, what problem can I solve? I'm not that stupid if I drink to drown my sorrows. I'm not that stupid." Yu Dongmei said meaningfully explain.
"That's good. Dongmei, this is our first time getting together this year. I wish you success in your work! Good luck!" Fang Hanmin took the lead in toasting.
Yu Dongmei raised her glass, but did not clink it with the other party, "Hanmin, thank you for agreeing to meet me! You didn't turn me away, so we had this meeting. However, this is probably the first time this year." This is also the last time we get together. Let’s drink to the last supper!” After saying that, Yu Dongmei took the initiative to raise her glass and clink it with Fang Hanmin. She took a small sip with tears in her eyes.
The atmosphere began to become serious. Fang Hanmin put down his cup, took a bite of food, and pretended to be relaxed and said: "Dongmei, you made the matter too serious. Meeting tonight is neither the last time nor the last time we get together." It’s the Last Supper, please don’t be so pessimistic.”
Yu Dongmei shook her head, "Fang Hanmin, I'm not a child. The matter is already very clear. You don't need to give me relief pills. But what I still can't understand is that just because I am obsessed with dancing, after I promise to change this Why do you insist on breaking up with me even though we are interested in you?"
This question has been raised by Dongmei more than once, and Fang Hanmin has explained it many times, but the problem is that the knot in Dongmei's heart has not been resolved yet.
Fang Hanmin smiled helplessly and explained again: "Dongmei, a person's normal interests and hobbies cannot be changed casually, otherwise, it will be like losing one's soul, and it will be so painful! Even if you are willing to do so, I won’t accept this favor from you either.”
"Since I am voluntary and have nothing to do with you, why don't you accept my change?" Yu Dongmei is still struggling with this.
"If I accept your change, I would be too selfish! It's not fair to you to sacrifice your own interests and hobbies for my feelings!"
After nearly three months of calming down, Yu Dongmei is now much more rational. She can listen to Fang Hanmin's explanation, but she still can't turn around. "You are used to being a leader, and you always speak so subjectively. I have repeatedly said Let me declare that I quit my hobbies voluntarily and voluntarily. I was not forced by you. How come it has to do with your selfishness?"
"Why am I so subjective? The reason is very simple. You voluntarily gave up your hobbies in order to take care of my feelings. Objectively speaking, isn't it reflected in my selfishness? Moreover, do you think this is fair to you?"
"I do! As long as I can be with you and make this sacrifice, I am willing to do it! I don't think about what is fair or unfair!" Yu Dongmei really likes Fang Hanmin, and she is very unwilling to end this relationship.
Fang Hanmin knew that today's communication would not be easy. After hearing Yu Dongmei's unreasonable words, he still said calmly: "Dongmei, please be sensible. Have you ever thought about it, if we just keep going forward like this?" , and finally became husband and wife. In the long years after marriage, can you restrain your impulses in hobbies? Now that you are in an emotional state, can you still say what you just said after marriage? No matter how you Guess, I’m very skeptical.”
This question was beyond Dongmei's expectation. She thought about it for a moment before saying, "You haven't tried it. How do you know that I won't be able to tell you when the time comes?"
"Dongmei, this kind of thing can only be done by considering all possible situations in advance and dealing with it calmly. How can you try it casually? If you try it and only wake up after reaching that point, won't you regret it too late? "
"Fang Hanmin, can you stop being so mysterious in front of me? You always act like you're worried, as if you've been there and have more social experience than me."
"I am not unfounded, nor do I have more social experience than you. I just analyze calmly and do not act emotionally. Yu Dongmei, regardless of your vows now, once you get married and have a family, no one can guarantee that the promises you made will always be valid. Until then. At that time, if we had a conflict because of this kind of thing, how painful it would be for both parties! Especially since we were former classmates, how could we be so embarrassed if it really got to that point? If word got out, how would those classmates laugh at us? Think about these questions. Have you passed?" Fang Hanmin said sincerely.
Yu Dongmei was silent. She carefully studied Fang Hanmin's words and felt that these problems were indeed very realistic, but she had never considered them before. In Yu Dongmei's opinion, love between husband and wife is enough. As for interests and hobbies, in order to take into account each other's feelings, they can temporarily overcome them. How can they think so far into the future for many years?
Fang Hanmin's rationality and emotion finally made Yu Dongmei realize the seriousness of the problem. If Fang Hanmin ignored this matter like him, it was inevitable that they would eventually get together. However, Fang Hanmin is right. No one can guarantee that he will still remember his original promise many years later. If he goes back on his word then, it will be too late!
Of course, Yu Dongmei felt that what she said made sense. How could she know that she couldn't always keep her promise without trying it? If you look at other things, there is nothing wrong with this, except for the important matter of marriage, you cannot try and make mistakes casually, unless you take your own life-long event as a trivial matter.
Fang Hanmin thought further. He and Yu Dongmei were classmates in high school, and they were also members of the class committee. If they ended up having a big fight over the marriage issue, not only would they be extremely embarrassed, but it would also spread to the ears of their classmates. What will people say? Fang Hanmin is already introverted, and he doesn't want this kind of thing to become a joke to others.
Seeing the hidden worries, Fang Hanmin felt that he and Yu Dongmei were not as suitable as they seemed on the surface. Instead of suffering in the future, it was better to end it as soon as possible. He decided to bear the pain and let go, even if Yu Dongmei did not understand it for the time being. Try to convince her. This is by no means ruthless, but responsible for both parties. He believes that this is the responsibility of a true friend.
Seeing Yu Dongmei say nothing, Fang Hanmin asked: "Dongmei, what are you thinking about?"
"I was thinking that the relationship between people is really unpredictable. You see, we are high school classmates and have been in love for more than a year. Suddenly we are about to see each other again. Fortunately, outsiders don't know about us. Otherwise, who can Believe it!" Yu Dongmei's sadness made people feel a little pity.
Fang Hanmin felt unhappy, but he would not waver in his decision, "Dongmei, I don't want to see such a situation happen, but we are all adults. When considering things, we must not only be calm, but also take a long-term view, and we cannot be distracted by the immediate situation." I'm confused by the appearance. Even if we can't be lovers or husband and wife, we are still alumni and classmates, and we can still be friends in the future."
Yu Dongmei smiled bitterly and said, "Do you think it's possible to be friends without being husband and wife?"
"What's impossible? We are classmates. Dongmei, please don't take this matter too seriously. I hope you can turn over this page and cheer up as soon as possible. I believe that the sun will still shine tomorrow."
Yu Dongmei looked thoughtfully into the distance without saying a word. After three or four minutes, she suddenly picked up the wine glass and said, "That's so good. Turn over this page. The sun will still shine tomorrow. For this sentence Cheers!" After saying that, he took a big sip.
"Dongmei, drink slowly, don't get drunk!"
"Does it matter to you whether I'm drunk or not? Fang Hanmin, from now on, you walk on your Yangguan Road and I cross mine on the single-plank bridge. We have nothing to do with each other!"
Fang Hanmin understood the other party's mood, and he could accept whatever Yu Dongmei said, "Dongmei, if saying it can make you feel better, I can accept it no matter how unpleasant it is. It's all my fault. How can you vent?" It’s not an exaggeration.”
Yu Dongmei leaned weakly on the chair, the tears that had already filled her eyes fell down like broken beads. She cried like a raindrop and burst into tears. Although it was heart-wrenching to watch, any words of comfort would be helpful. It's all superfluous to her.
If crying can be considered a form of venting, just let her cry until she has enough. Fang Hanmin watched Yu Dongmei silently, he must accompany her through this difficult moment.
After about ten minutes, Yu Dongmei finally stopped crying. She wiped her tears with a handkerchief and said mockingly: "A person in her twenties still looks like a little girl. Am I ridiculous? But this is you." The last time you saw me cry, I will never see you again."
Seeing Yu Dongmei's miserable state, Fang Hanmin felt very guilty, "Dongmei, I'm sorry, I caused all this, it's all my fault, please forgive me."
"Why are you taking the blame on yourself? I was the one who took the initiative to find you in the first place. Otherwise, we wouldn't have had this experience. If there's any fault, it's all my fault."
"Dongmei, please don't say that. This encounter allowed me to learn a lot of social experience from you. Through contact with you, I learned that besides work, there are many meaningful things in life."
