Wang Xiaolie promised Zhang Jun to enter the military academy, which put him in a good mood. He stood up and was about to leave when he suddenly turned around and said, "Zhenfu, I recently met a young lady and I really like her. I want to marry her, but I don't know if I should or not."
Wang Xiaolie said: "As long as you two are happy with each other and the girl is willing, it is a good thing."
Zhang Jun was silent for a while and then said: "To be honest with Zhen Fu, that young lady's identity is a bit embarrassing. Besides, she is two years older than me."
Wang Xiaolie said with a smile: "What does it matter if you are two years older? If you think it's good, no one else can say anything."
Zhang Jun gritted his teeth and said: "This little lady has a bad background. She was poor since she was a child and was sold to someone else. Because she was quite pretty, her adoptive mother asked her to sing in a restaurant to earn some money to support the family. This With his family background, he knows a lot of people, so he can’t hide it from anyone.”
Wang Xiaolie looked at Zhang Jun. After a while, he said: "You are so serious about this, I'm afraid that little lady is not just singing in the restaurant, right?"
Zhang Jun said: "She didn't hide it from me. When we were in the restaurant before, we had a few good friends."
Wang Xiaolie thought for a while. He said: "Tell me in detail who she is and how she met you. - Don't hide it from me!"
Zhang Jun had no choice but to tell Wang Xiaolie the identity of the jade slave and his recent experiences. Including what happened in Xiangcheng, and even being taken to Yique because of his friendship with Luan Qingshan, he told everything.
After listening carefully, Wang Xiaolie sighed: "This little lady is not a simple person. The robbery in Xiangcheng dared to pull out teeth from the tiger's mouth. How can ordinary people do it? The situation in that area is chaotic, and the robbery is not under my control. "Excuse me, I can ignore it. But if you want to marry her, you have to be careful. Tell me the truth, are you willing to marry her, or is she asking you to do so?"
Zhang Jun said: "What's the difference? Whether I want to marry or she wants to marry, it is ultimately a matter between the two of us."
Wang Xiaolie said: "The difference is huge. With her background, if she wanted to be a good person, she would mostly marry a rich man as a concubine. Of course, if she has money now, she can also find a husband who is greedy for her money. She is the one who can marry you. I couldn’t even dream of it.”
Zhang Jun said: "She said the same thing. I want to marry her."
Wang Xiaolie said: "You are young and have a high status. If you are willing, I don't know how many daughters of good families would be willing to marry you. Why would you marry such a woman? If you covet her beauty, you don't have to marry her home."
Zhang Jun thought for a while. He looked up at Wang Xiaolie and said firmly: "I do. I just like it."
Wang Xiaolie was stunned for a moment. Said: "You have to think clearly. When you marry a woman like this, don't talk about what others think or say, or all the gossip. With her background and experience, there will be countless troubles in her daily life. You can bear it. ?”
Zhang Jun said: "My father and mother were very loving in the past. They have raised me for more than ten years, and I have never seen them quarreling, and they have never even spoken loudly. But the gold thief invaded the south, and my father was kidnapped to the north. Went. My mother took me around and had a hard time. After only a few months, my mother couldn't bear it anymore. When I arrived in Caizhou, I found a member of the Communist Party of China. We lived together and earned some money to live on. Zhen Fu, do you think my parents are a loving couple? Everyone admires such a loving couple. But what's the use?"
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Wang Xiaolie looked at Zhang Jun and said: "In this world, there are many things that are beyond our control. As a human being, we must not have random thoughts. The gold thief's crime was a natural and man-made disaster. Who could have imagined that it would happen? Without this accident, your father would have Mom is naturally a loving couple. With this accident, many things will naturally be different. We cannot think too much about what ifs when we are in it. There are not so many what ifs in this world."
Zhang Jun said: "No matter what, I think it is unreliable that couples are in love and love each other. It is better to just follow your own temper and just like it if you like it. Why bother to care about what others will say!"
Looking at Zhang Jun, Wang Xiaolie couldn't help but be stunned. I really didn't expect that Zhang Jun would have such thoughts. If he thinks this way, the family he builds must be different from the normal one. But who says what a family must look like? At the end of the day, as long as two people like it, it's fine.
After thinking about it, Wang Xiaolie said: "The so-called family means that a man and a woman love each other and live together. No matter how many principles there are, it can't be compared to the love between two people. I don't want to interfere too much in your private affairs. As long as you and Yu Nu If you like it personally, others can't say anything if you become a couple. However, I want to remind you that it is one thing for a man and a woman to become a couple, but it is another thing after forming a family. A family is not just a matter of two people. You will still have children, and no matter what, you cannot mistreat your children. In society, a family has many responsibilities, and you must shoulder these responsibilities. As long as these are done well, and as long as the two of you like it, you don't care what others say. "
Zhang Jun said: "Why should others care about our family's affairs?"
Wang Xiaolie said: "Because in this world, we live together with others. How can we not care about others at all?"
Zhang Jun nodded: "As long as the governor agrees, these are all trivial matters."
Wang Xiaolie sighed: "It is these little things that cause us endless troubles. Don't we talk about our neighbors on weekdays? Why do we talk so much when it's our turn? I won't stop you from marrying anyone, but You must be prepared to face all kinds of troubles.”
Zhang Jun handed over his hand and said, "I'll remember it."
Zhang Jun said goodbye and went out. Wang Xiaolie stayed there alone for a while.
Of course this is not the first time Wang Xiaolie has heard about the big commotion that Jade Slave once made. I just didn't expect how I could get together with Zhang Jun. As Zhang Jun, no one said anything when he secretly took a jade slave as a concubine. Even if it is regarded as an outer room, Yu Nu is still allowed to do business, and it doesn't matter if the two of them actually live together. But Wang Xiaolie couldn't understand why he had to marry a famous matchmaker.
Ancient China was actually a monogamous system, but there were maids and concubines. An important factor affecting the relationship between husband and wife is the status of concubine. Wang Xiaolie actually canceled the concubine's legal status. But if the wife agrees, what can be done about how many women a man is willing to have? Even in future generations, there will still be lovers and mistresses. The difference now is that Wang Xiaolie doesn't care.
We don't have to worry about a man possessing multiple women directly, but we can limit it from the side. For example, improving the status of the wife in the relationship between husband and wife, so that the wife can not allow extra women in the family. Improve the wife's economic status in the family and control men's expenses in these areas.
This kind of thing cannot happen overnight. Rather, it must slowly change with the development of society. Social development not only changes people's lives, but also changes people's thinking.
After much deliberation, Wang Xiaolie couldn't understand Zhang Jun's thoughts. He shook his head and ignored it. As long as Zhang Jun is willing and able to bear all the consequences, no one else should care about him. Husband and wife, in the final analysis, are a matter of two people.
Standing up, Wang Xiaolie looked out the window quietly.
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