So Ye Feng gave an example: "If you see a beggar on the roadside, will you help him or not?"
This time the three people disagreed almost in unison.
Xi Ruo said: "Help"
Xia Xinghe said: "It depends on your mood."
But Xia Yimo remained silent.
For a moment, the three people in the scene were stunned and looked at each other. Ye Feng smiled as if he had guessed this scene.
Ye Feng said: "Then tell us your reasons."
Xi Ruo first said: "Although my family situation is actually about the same, compared with the beggar, I can still be considered a little better. Relatively speaking, the beggar is weak, and I am the strong one. So as long as I am in When I can, I will not hesitate to help the weak, and the strong should help the weak. Isn’t this what you have always stood for, Ye Feng?"
Ye Feng did not answer immediately, but looked at the other two people.
Xia Xinghe said: "When I meet a beggar, it depends on my mood at the time. If I'm in a good mood, I'll help. If I'm in a bad mood, I won't help."
But Xia Yimo remained silent.
Ye Feng knows why Xia Yimo is like this, because she is "Xia Wuyan", the king who rules the ancient and ancient fairyland of Middle-earth. It is your emperor's responsibility to have beggars on the road of Middle-earth. In other words, Xia Yimo has no The right and qualification to choose "to help or not to help".
So Ye Feng added: "Then let me add a premise. You three are just three very ordinary people in the world outside, and the beggars on the roadside have nothing to do with you. Will your answers change?"
Xiruo and Xia Xinghe both said: "No."
At this moment, Xia Yimo's expression finally calmed down, and he finally had the will to speak, so he said:
"I think we should not interfere with other people's destiny, nor should we participate in other people's cause and effect. I think we should not interfere too much in other people's lives and decisions, but should respect their own choices and decisions. Everyone has their own life. We cannot make key decisions on their behalf, and excessive intervention may have unknown negative effects."
. . .
In fact, Ye Feng understood what Xia Yimo wanted to express.
Everyone should not make decisions for others easily, let them make their own decisions, whether it is good or bad, do not interfere. For example, some parents make marriage decisions for their daughters. If the marriage is happy and the parents have great merit, the daughter will often come back to visit her parents. But if the daughter's marriage is unhappy, the parents will say that this is fate, and the daughter will not come back to see her parents.
You like to interfere in other people's affairs, and you always like to take the credit for yourself and at the same time put the blame on God. Has God provoked you?
Everyone has their own cause and effect. Ancient people liked to talk about numerology, that is, everything in the world has its own laws of operation. If you spy on the secrets of heaven or change the laws of the development of things, you will definitely be punished by God. The same is true when it comes to causality. If you interfere with other people's cause and effect without authorization, the consequences of the changed part will have to be borne and borne by the person who intervened.
Life experiences include many, including five disadvantages and three disadvantages. The five disadvantages refer to being widowed, widowed, lonely, alone, and disabled. An old man without a wife is a widower, an old man without a husband is a widow, an old man without a son is an orphan, a child without a father is an orphan, and a child with a broken body is a cripple. The three deficiencies refer to money, power and life. Lack of money means that you will not have too much money in your life. If it exceeds a certain amount, it will bring disaster. Lack of power here refers to lack of blessing and lack of luck. Lack of life means that the life span is relatively short and cannot live long.
A real fortune teller helps others tell fortunes, which is actually a way of consuming one's own blessings. Because when you help others predict or eliminate disasters, you will pay the price of changing their destiny. In fact, it is also the cause and effect of interfering with others.
In life, everyone has their own path to take. Only you can understand whether the path is suitable for you. For other people's affairs, you can give some small suggestions, but don't point fingers at other people's affairs, otherwise your excessive participation will arouse others' disgust or even hatred. Even if it is a very close relationship, such as the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between parents and children, or the relationship between brothers and sisters, we must know how to keep a distance and respect each other's choices and opinions.
Everyone has his or her own calamity, and everyone must go through this calamity before talents can grow and make progress. Otherwise, we will always stay at that hurdle and never be able to move forward. When a person is stubborn about a certain thing, as an elder he must not interfere. He will not look back until his head is broken and bleeding. That is Ying Jie. When he succeeds in breaking through, he will grow up.
Both Taoism and Buddhism believe in karma and retribution. The way of heaven is clear and no one can escape this cycle. This is not superstition. If you try to think about things in life, they all have cause and effect. As the saying goes, if you sow melons, you will reap melons; if you sow beans, you will reap beans. Whatever you sow, you will reap the fruits.
Zeng Shiqiang, a master of Chinese traditional culture, also pointed out that don’t interfere with other people’s cause and effect, because the consequences of cause and effect are very serious, and all enemies will come to you. We can only talk about the general ones, unless it is necessary for him to ask you alone. Only then did I tell him that I couldn't take the initiative to tell others how I was doing. A person knew too much, and if there were advantages and disadvantages, you had to decide for yourself whether you wanted to intervene in the cause and effect of others. "
The writer Mo Yan said: "Don't participate in other people's cause and effect, and don't disturb other people's energy. Otherwise, you will be wasting yourself, and you will not be able to save the world. Therefore, the doctor does not knock on the door, the teacher does not follow the way, the Dharma is not taught lightly, and the Dharma is not taught without asking. . Remember, in the adult world, there is no screening, no education, only choice, no change. If the mud is in a good state, you have to help it up the wall. If the salted fish is lying down well, you have to turn it over. , a piece of rotten wood, you have to carve it into something talented. Don’t do this. You must restrain yourself and correct other people’s desires. No matter how heavy the rain is, it will not moisten the rootless grass. No matter how wide the Tao is, it can only help those who are destined.”
Although what Zeng Shiqiang and Mo Yan said made sense, it was a pity that Ye Feng's views were completely different from theirs. First of all, Ye Feng's heresy is a traitor to the three schools of Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism. Naturally, there are many different things from the master of Chinese studies.
Mo Yan's statement is still biased. After all, he is a writer, not a thinker or philosopher. But even among philosophers and thinkers, there are many biased people.
If you don’t believe it, read again the content of what the two of them said. Not all of it is from your personal perspective. To put it harshly, it is a selfish perspective to explain one thing. Such an explanation is bound to be biased.
Of course, you can also add qualifiers, such as "excessive intervention," "forced intervention," to make yourself irrefutable, but you must know that this kind of moderate rhetoric is essentially uncertainty, and uncertainty is It means nothing can be said and nothing can be done. This is the shortcoming of Confucianism, so the Confucian mentality of having high ambitions and low hands is engraved in the bones.
