As for what happened to that woman, I don’t know. After all, I don’t have the ability to do things perfectly like Ye Feng in the novel. The most realistic portrayal of us is the imperfect state in which everything in life has more or less regrets and shortcomings. That’s why we pursue perfection, and with this mood, we work hard to do the next thing well. better
In the whole process of that incident, my role was no different from that of a tree stump being talked to. If she is okay after that, it means that she can just find a ball and draw two eyes, a nose and a mouth on it, and she can still talk and cheer up again. In fact, whether you can get out of the pain ultimately depends on the inner strength of the person involved. Just by sharing, what others can do for you is actually very limited.
And the reason why that woman disturbed people in the middle of the night was to disturb me. Afterwards, I thought about it, and I guess she just wanted the person she could talk to to be a living person. And I really don’t know whether this requirement threshold is high or low.
So now that we’ve talked about pain, what about happiness?
First of all, we must be sure that if our happiness is shared with people who truly care about each other and like each other, and let important people experience our happiness, then in addition to the original happiness, we will also have a sense of satisfaction in giving happiness. This is the positive meaning of sharing happiness
But leaving aside the question of whether you have a girlfriend or not, let’s talk about the opposite.
Does happiness have to be shared with others? Or to put it another way, if happiness is only known to oneself and not known to others, is it still not happiness?
In fact, it still counts. Not only does it count, but it is also the highest level of happiness that is exclusive to oneself.
There are many joys in our lives that are unknown to others. These joys may be reading a book alone at home, or enjoying the beautiful scenery while walking in the park. Although these joys are not recognized and praised by others, they can bring us real satisfaction and happiness.
Many times, we pay too much attention to the evaluation and recognition of ourselves by the outside world. While pursuing what appears to be "success" and "excellence" in the eyes of others, we ignore what we truly desire in our hearts. Some people may become anxious, lost or even depressed as a result. We mentioned before that we need to be "ourselves". Be the master of your own heart, but there is no method mentioned. The reason why I don't mention it is because the method is actually very simple, that is, to enjoy the happiness that only belongs to one person. And "enjoying the happiness that only belongs to one person" is both the starting point and the end point of "being yourself". Similar to humanity. When we learn to enjoy the little joys that are unknown to others, we can truly have the happiness deep within ourselves.
It is because this kind of happiness is bundled with oneself alone, so this kind of happiness is exclusive to oneself, but why it is the highest level, the reason is simple - a golden nest and a silver nest are not as good as your own doghouse. What belongs only to you is the highest level for you. No matter when, where, or how this society develops or how history changes, this will not change at all.
In fact, sometimes, you can truly enjoy happiness when no one knows about it
For example, when you cook a gourmet dish at home, you don’t need others to share or praise you. You just need to enjoy the pleasure and anticipation during the making process. For another example, when you indulge in a hobby, you don’t need to consider whether other people understand or support it. As long as you like it. we said before
"No one will care about the process of your hard work. They will only see where you stand in the end and what achievements you achieve. Although we often say that heroes cannot be judged by their success or failure, heroes are often successful. So the process is indeed It’s important. But the result is more important!”
We tend to pay more attention to the success and failure of results than to the process, but a lot of happiness itself only exists in the process, and good results are not so easy to obtain. This also leads to happy things that should be enjoyed in the process, but because we pay too much attention to the results, they are not happy at all. Not to mention that some results are not worth pursuing at all, such as death, which is the final result of life?
Of course, not all happiness can be accomplished independently without the involvement of others. For example, the laughter when getting along with friends, or the sense of accomplishment brought by helping others, all require the participation and recognition of others. Therefore, we should learn to distinguish which happiness is truly pursued in the heart, and which happiness only exists to please others.
Therefore, for things like "sharing", although people often say that sharing is a bridge between people's souls, if you invite people to the bridge regardless of the target, and everyone will get on the bridge regardless of the quality and weight of the happy goods, the bridge will one day be collapsed
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Okay, enough of the nonsense, let’s get back to the book.
There is a beautiful scenery among the high mountains not far from Kyoto. Looking from a distance, you can see the rolling hills and clouds. Looking closer, you can see a dense forest, shaded by green trees, with gurgling streams, which merge into a mountain stream to form a rather broad, green, crystal-clear lake.
The mountains and rivers in the distance seemed to be shrouded in a layer of mist, shining with crystal clear light in the sun. And the forest in front of us became more clearly visible. The tall and straight trees stood there quietly, their branches and leaves intertwined to form small worlds. Some tree trunks have raised many growth rings, leaving their own marks in the course of time.
It is really unexpected that there is such a beautiful and mysterious corner near Kyoto.
At this moment, Su Waner had transformed into her original white neon skirt and was sitting quietly on a stone by the lake. While the mountain wind wrinkled the scaly lake surface, it also gently blew Su Waner's ribbon. I have to say that Amelia Su is also a very beautiful woman. But when she is usually with beauties such as Ren Xiaojin and Qing Ni, she, a little beauty, can easily be overshadowed.
Ye Feng appeared not far from Su Waner. Su Waner glanced at Ye Feng sideways and was not surprised. Because she knew that Ye Feng would definitely come to find her, if he was still the Ye Feng she knew.
And Ye Feng looked at the surrounding environment at this moment, and couldn't help but marvel at the miraculous craftsmanship of nature.
I saw Ye Feng licking his old face and coming to Su Waner's side, saying, "You really know how to pick a place."
Su Waner said angrily: "Go back!"
"Oh" Ye Feng really walked towards where he was standing.
"Come back!" Su Waner said coquettishly.
"Oh." Ye Feng returned to Su Waner's side honestly.
Ye Feng's stupidity really made Su Waner very angry, and she didn't know where her original feeling of disappointment had gone.
