The narrator said: Ye Yu, what do you think about dog licking?
Ye Yu said: I can say it, but I think there is no point in saying it. After all, you can't make a licking dog stop being a dog and become a human with just a few words. It's that saying, you can never wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep. Do you want to listen to such meaningless things?
The narrator said: Well, it’s just boring. By the way, Ye Yu, have you ever been a dog licker?
Ye Yu rolled his eyes at the narrator with contempt, not wanting to ask him this question, so he sighed deeply and said, "I'll tell you." It was obvious that Ye Yu didn't want to answer the narrator's question of whether he had ever been a licker.
So Ye Yu said: There is an inverse law of proportion in love. The specific expression is: the more sober you are, the more the other person will be attracted to you; the more stable your emotions are, the more worried the other person will be about gains and losses; the more you care too much, the more indifferent the other person will be; Love yourself and the other person will love you more.
And this "inverse law of love" reveals that the essence of mate selection is the "curtain wall". What makes a woman unable to live without you is the strong qualities you possess. And it is definitely not your desire to please and accommodate the weak. So we often say "lick the dog until you have nothing left". This is the truth, and it is also a very sad truth.
When it comes to licking dogs, most people argue from a negative perspective to the wise saying of "licking a dog until there is nothing left", but this time we discuss it from a positive perspective.
Let's take two strong people's thinking, and these two strong people's thinking are summed up through repeated trial and error in practice and being severely beaten by reality. If you can understand it, it will save you a few years of detours in choosing a mate.
First, the strong only screen and do not change. You must understand that in reality, adult relationships do not necessarily result in equal returns based on sincerity and dedication, and require some strategies.
What is a weak person? That means that you can't control your emotions emotionally, you take the lead first, and then you pray to the other person to give you the same return.
"Why didn't she reply to my message for so long?"
"Why are you so cold to me?"
"I don't want to be a dog licker anymore. Let's get together and relax. From now on, you can walk on your single-plank bridge and I'll be supporting the bridge from below. You must be careful when crossing the bridge."
"What's wrong with her hanging on me? She hangs on me because she loves me. Why doesn't she hang on others?"
"Yesterday when I was carrying sandbags at the construction site, I carried three bags at once. My co-workers asked me why I was so good at carrying sandbags. I burst into tears instantly. Yes, why am I so good at carrying sandbags but I can't help but miss you."
"As long as you look back, I will be there."
"As long as I lick fast enough, other dogs can't start."
"I will never come to you again", but the next day it was "Good morning" again.
Wait, wait, etc., there are countless classic dog-licking quotes like this, and these reflect the typical thinking of the weak. Having unreasonable expectations for others, basing one's happiness and disappointment on other people's feedback, and making oneself passive and humble. When facing someone you like, all bottom-line principles are gone. You can't even control your own emotions, let alone take control of the relationship.
So what is a strong mind? That is, I just need to know my own needs and always invest time and energy in myself. Guard your own framework, maintain your own rhythm, and don't let others influence your emotions. Stick to your own principles and bottom lines, and tell the other party clearly what you can and cannot accept. If she can satisfy you, both parties will have a good time, otherwise, don't drag yourself into it and waste both parties' time.
Remember not to try to preach or change a person. Her parents and teachers have been educating her for almost 30 years, but it is useless. Just a few words from you can make that change? The other person doesn't like you emotionally that much, and their character cannot meet your requirements. These cannot be changed through sincerity and preaching. It's like I sincerely suggest that you don't stay up late playing games, but my sincerity can only let you know about it, but it can't change your emotional dependence on these things at all. The sincerity of those licking dogs can probably only reach this level.
Therefore, adults' mate selection has always been about screening without changing.
Second, don’t pray for help in times of need. The biggest difference in the relationship between men and women is that women's nature in choosing a mate is to be strong. What they want is the commitment of a strong man who can be considerate and give her emotional value. People with weak thinking always only focus on the latter, always trying to exchange hearts for hearts, but ignore the big prerequisite of being strong.
When a woman approaches you, she does not come to care for you or love you, but to see that you are in good condition and live a wonderful life, to feel your overflowing luck, and to want to share in the pie, or to seek your protection. , because in her eyes, you are the strong one.
And if you have a weak mentality, do yourself badly, suffer, and feel uncomfortable, and long for women to fill your shortcomings, this kind of attraction will not exist. After all, women are always the icing on the cake, and absolutely We are not here to help the poor. You cannot pray for help in times of need. understand?
A woman likes the way you are confident, natural and yourself from the beginning. Instead of worrying about gains and losses, losing oneself, and treating her as if she were her life.
Therefore, Ye Feng has emphasized countless times to be yourself and be yourself.
If the happiness, happiness, security, etc. you need all need and can only be provided by the other party, then you must be the weak one in this relationship. In relationships, the law of the jungle is still effective. The strong dominates the weak, and the weak will eventually be abandoned.
If a woman is attracted to you, it must be that you carry values that she appreciates. It can be positive, optimistic and capable, or it can be elegant and tasteful in conversation.
People with a strong mentality must prioritize polishing themselves and making themselves very good, and women will naturally be attracted to them. A person with a weak mentality will never build himself up, and will always be eager for others to fill and save him. He always tries to use cheap means to please and care, trying to exchange hearts for hearts, exchanging and soliciting women's favor.
You have to understand, don't try to chase a horse, but use the time chasing horses to plant a grassland. When the flowers bloom, there will be not just one horse, but a group of horses. Pick.
There is a saying to remember: the bees come from the fragrance of flowers, and the beauty of a city is unknown to the world. Good wine is not afraid of deep alleys, and butterflies fly in from the fragrance of flowers.
This is what is said in the saying, "The phoenix will come when the sky is high, and the fragrant flowers and butterflies will come."
Ye Feng had told Fatty so many times about this truth that Ye Feng didn't want to tell Fatty anymore. Because the fat man is too stubborn.
The narrator looked at Ye Yu and said with a smile: I am finally sure, Ye Yu, you must have been a dog licker.
Ye Yu: I’ll fuck you! Damn it!
