Regarding love at first sight, old people believe that if a relationship does not accumulate over time, it will be fragile and vulnerable, and it will be too easy to part ways due to external interests and circumstances.
It is true that this statement makes sense. Without enough time accumulation, we naturally cannot learn more about the other person, understand the other person's true character, and we cannot accurately judge whether the other person is suitable for us. It is also even more impossible to build a solid defense against the temptation of external interests and circumstances. This sentence may sound reasonable at first, but we have to admit that time is by no means an absolute guarantee for the longevity of a relationship.
Remember that saying that was popular online some time ago? "The first sword you strike ashore is to kill the person you want first." The first thing a man does after successfully passing the postgraduate entrance examination or the editing examination is to break up with his girlfriend who has been with him for more than ten years and is outside the system. An ordinary person can have several decades, and a woman can have her best years for several more decades. But even with more than ten years of accumulation and more than ten years of companionship, a man will still become a scumbag.
So old people, please stand up and answer my question. How should I explain this? They will definitely say that there are no absolutes in the world and there will always be exceptions. These are just a few cases.
So I would like to ask the old people when they criticize love at first sight, have they ever thought of the saying "There are no absolutes in the world, there will always be exceptions, these are just a few cases"?
There are never universal truths and principles in this world. They all need to be analyzed and viewed in detail based on the specific situation. This has always been the case. Truth has always helped us understand the world, but it has never been used to define it.
So let’s talk about “the first sword you land on the beach is to kill the person you like first”
This is actually more like a breakup software. Enter the appearance, education, family background, work and other codes of both men and women, and the program will "accurately match" according to the conditions.
Once one party has big variables and the conditions of both parties seriously mismatch, the other party will start to eliminate this person in their mind. Really realistic, cold-blooded yet very rational and reasonable
In fact, most things like reason are contrary to the beautiful human emotions, because reason is the most reasonable response to the real environment. However, reality is cruel, and blind kindness and beauty cannot deal with reality. Therefore, reason that can reasonably deal with reality actually has an opposite relationship with kindness and beauty in most cases.
This is a modern evolution of the traditional concept of "well-matched" marriage, and it is a "flexible response" of humans as the most advanced animals in adapting to the environment.
The traditional view of marriage has been passed down for thousands of years. Although it has its rationality, problems will inevitably arise if any truth goes as far as it goes.
Let me ask everyone, when did our love become so realistic and stubborn? Since when did we no longer believe in love?
Since time is not the most critical determining factor, what is the key factor? The answer is very simple, it is the heart, or the human heart. Let me give you an inappropriate model. Please bear with me for now, but this model can explain many problems.
This model is a sincere slot with a score of 100. When both men and women reach 100, they are a couple made by gods and gods, a couple made in heaven and on earth. But the reality is often not as beautiful as imagined. In reality, if both parties can reach 70 or 80, it is enough for the world to envy and praise them as "until death do us part". It's a pity that no man and woman can reach 100 when they fall in love at first sight.
In fact, in the case of love at first sight, women can generally give between 70 and 80, while men can't even reach the passing mark. This is determined by the physiological differences between men and women. There are many differences, the most important example being childbirth. In terms of childbirth, a woman's cycle is one month, and she has to spend 10 months of pregnancy and at least one year of rest time, while men only need a few days of rest time. Therefore, the cost paid by men and women is seriously disproportionate, so the value of the sincerity gauge that men can pay is very limited. And the scumbag has even less words. So isn’t there an old saying, okay? All love at first sight is just a man's desire. There is still some truth to it
Take the beautiful legendary love story of the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl, where the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl meet each other on a magpie bridge. Although the story is good, from the current moral and legal perspective, there are many problems.
First, the Cowherd stole the Weaver Girl's fairy clothes under the instigation of the old scalper, and was suspected of theft. You must know that Xianyi is a priceless treasure in the mortal world, and the amount of theft is extremely huge. There is no problem in sentencing you to a 10-year prison sentence for having a wife! Yes, it means having a wife in prison, there is no typo. Secondly, Weaver Girl was very anxious to get her fairy clothes back. Cowherd used the fairy clothes to force Weaver Girl to marry him and give birth to twins, which seriously violated Weaver Girl's marital autonomy and was suspected of being a crime of rape. When the fairy clothes were finally stolen, the Cowherd was by the pond. He most likely saw the fairies' naked bodies, which seriously violated the fairies' right to privacy.
Are the three views completely shattered? It just means that you have not thought about this issue independently before. Others have instilled in you that this story is beautiful but avoids the dark places, so you don’t know or think about it?
No matter how beautified the love story of the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl is, it begins with a gangster coercing a naked girl. So, gangsters are gangsters, no matter how you try to beautify them, it’s useless.
Of course, it may be too much to use this story to explain the model, but it also illustrates one thing: when it comes to love at first sight, men still pay far less than women. Therefore, love needs time to settle down, which is actually a requirement for men. It is to allow men to have time to fill up the sincerity tank with values that exceed the passing line of 60 and reach 70 or 80 or above. Only in this way can we not let down the woman
But it must be emphasized that this is just a general situation, and there are exceptions to everything. And this is the only sentence that has no exceptions
Ye Feng is this exception. To be honest, Ye Feng's relationship does progress too fast. But he treats every wife sincerely. Time has never been an issue. What needs to be seen is whether the values of the sincerity slots of both parties are consistent at 80. In fact, both parties reached it at that time. What's more, Ye Feng, who came back after a thousand years, still regarded Ren Xiaojin, Yingying, Qingni and Gu Xun'er as his wives, and Ye Feng even refused countless temptations of beauties in the devil world for the four of them.
For Ren Xiaojin and the others, Ye Feng may be a man they have known for less than a year but have already fallen in love with. But for Ye Feng, Ren Xiaojin and the others are the wives he has missed for thousands of years and waited for thousands of years. Who can I tell you about the hardships involved?
A thousand years is too long for one's senses
