An obvious phenomenon is that before Jiraiya's death, Naruto went to Haruno Sakura whenever he had time, and often talked about "recovering Sasuke". However, after Jiraiya's death, Naruto rarely went to Haruno Sakura. Now, I no longer talk about "recovering Sasuke". Because at this time, Naruto cared more about the people who cared about him, rather than the people he cared about. Because of Jiraiya's death, Naruto saw clearly the attitude of the people around him towards him. When he was complaining to Tsunade for the lustful immortal, Kakashi and Haruno Sakura were stopping him and blaming himself because of these people. They don't particularly care about Naruto, these people care more about "Hokage and the Leaf Village"
When Naruto cried under the streetlight at night, only Iruka in the entire Konoha Village came to comfort Naruto, because Iruka cared about Naruto and understood Naruto's mood. Kakashi should also be watching in the dark, hoping that Naruto can face it on his own, but Naruto is a fragile person. What he needs is not to face it alone, but comfort and guidance. Since Jiraiya's sacrifice, Naruto's attitude towards other ninjas has been different, which was clearly shown when Pain invaded Konoha Village.
After Naruto returned to Konoha Village, he did not sense Kakashi's chakra. After Tsunade confirmed Kakashi's death, Naruto did not explode instantly, but suppressed the sadness in his heart. Because Kakashi is not someone who particularly cares about him in Naruto's eyes, Kakashi's death cannot make Naruto lose his mind instantly, because Naruto no longer values the people he cares about as much as before. But Hinata is different. Hinata is someone who cares about Naruto and is the "person in front of him" who Naruto should cherish. Therefore, Naruto lost his mind after Hinata was injured.
Before Jiraiya died, Naruto thought that he could not protect the people he cared about. After Jiraiya died, Naruto thought that he could not protect the people he cared about. This transformation is maturity. After Naruto matures, he no longer blindly gives his feelings, but shares them with others. He will give to anyone who is worthy of his love. Haruno Sakura was no longer on Naruto's list after Jiraiya's death. Therefore, Naruto gave up his love the night after he learned of Jiraiya's sacrifice. Haruno Sakura's feelings. From then on, most of what Naruto said to Haruno Sakura was joking, and there was not much love between men and women.
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Naruto's situation is different from Ye Feng's, but he mentioned the most critical thing: that is, the people he likes to care about and the people who like to care about him. The order of importance between the two
Love is a beautiful ideal, and we all like the perfect ending when lovers finally get married. The person you like and the person who likes you are the same person. But the reason why an ideal is an ideal is because there are too many unrealities. Of course, in reality, there are naturally already realized ideals. In reality, there are indeed people who meet, get to know each other, fall in love, and finally get married. They are lucky people who are lucky enough to combine ideals and reality, and have a perfect ideal ending. But for more people in life, it is an imperfect reality
There once was a very classic love question. The question is: If you had to choose one of the following two people to get married, how would you choose? The first is the person you like, but she doesn’t like you; the second is the person who likes you, but you don’t like you.
In fact, Naruto's choice has told everyone the answer. The person who chooses the first one will only be in the immature stage of mind, while the person who chooses the second one has obviously moved from childishness to maturity in mentality.
Maybe you would say that the person who chooses the first one is the one who pursues his own happiness, while the person who chooses the second one is the one who accepts the cruel reality and accepts loss.
Yes, you are right. The first type of people are indeed those who pursue their own happiness and are obsessed with gaining; while the second type of people are indeed people who have accepted the cruelty of life and are those who accept loss.
But isn’t human growth and life a process of gradual loss and acceptance of loss? There may be those rich second generations among us who come from privileged backgrounds. The starting point for them when they are born is often the end point that we ordinary people may not be able to reach after a lifetime of hard work. They can stand glamorously on the center stage of the world, put on heavy makeup and shout: "Destiny can be changed", "My destiny is up to me", "Thirty years to the east of the river, thirty years to the west of the river, don't bully young people into poverty" slogan
By the way, you heard it right, the slogan "Thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi, don't deceive young people into poverty" has never been something that poor losers can shout.
However, in this world, can you imagine that for 200 yuan, you would wallow like a pig in muddy water in front of everyone and eventually turn into a clay man? Do you know that there is a middle-aged man sitting in the last row on the last bus who cries suppressedly for no reason? Have you ever seen a male delivery boy sitting on the roadside crying and being complained because he was just one minute late? Have you ever seen a middle-aged man crying on the stairs of the intensive care unit of a hospital? Can you imagine a 6-year-old child with late-stage leukemia saying to his mother, "Mom, if I die, please give me another child?"
The collapse of an adult is always just a momentary thing. For 99.9% of us, life is miserable from the beginning.
Life always forces us to give up something, lose something, and we have to accept the loss, so that life will allow us to survive. It's always been like this
So back to Ye Feng, Ren Xiaojin is the ideal of love for Ye Feng, and it is also an ideal that has been realized. Of course, Ye Feng would never give up even if he died, and the same was true for Ren Xiaojin. This is also the reason why You Ji thought Ren Xiaojin and Ye Feng were a perfect match and voluntarily quit.
Qingni and even Yingying, for Ye Feng, they are actually the cruel reality of love. And Ye Feng has never been a strong man, he has always been a weak one. Ye Feng has been losing.
Regardless of whether it was his fault or not, Ye Feng owed them both, which also made it impossible for Ye Feng to abandon them, and he had to bear unwarranted but necessary responsibilities. Ye Feng did not evade responsibility, accepted loss, and took responsibility. Isn't this a sign of maturity as an adult?
Qingni and Yingying lost a lot because of Ye Feng, but they still like and even love him. To Ye Feng, they are the ones who really care about him. In comparison, whether they are the people Ye Feng likes is not that important to Ye Feng.
I saw Ye Feng transformed into a red wedding dress. This time, Ye Feng did not escape or be confused anymore. He smiled and looked directly into his clear eyes that were almost turning into silent tears, and stretched out his hand.
"Qing'er, I like you, so stay, okay?"
