"Only I know that when I reach middle age, I finally live the way I hate the most. How this life will end and what it will be like in the future, I have no idea."
"I only know that my marriage, which looks bright and beautiful on the surface, is like a terminally ill patient. The illness is invisible on the outside, but in fact there is no cure."
"There is a kind of forgiveness, which is called deceiving oneself. There is a kind of divorce, which is called running away. A cheating marriage is a marriage that has already suffered from a terminal illness. If forgiveness is a special medicine to treat this terminal illness, it will allow such a marriage to live for a while longer. This period It’s hard to say how long the time will last, maybe a few months, maybe a few years, maybe more than ten years, but you will still die eventually.”
"The marriage between Shang Biao and I was originally a terminally ill marriage. Although I chose to forgive and let this marriage survive for a while, it would not last long." Kanshu La
"The damage caused by cheating cannot be healed at all. The so-called forgiveness is just to give yourself and the other person a decent step. Even if the broken glass is put back together, it will never go back to the past."
"Even if I didn't choose to cheat, would this marriage last forever? Even if Shang Biao gets over his cheating, I will eventually divorce him. At most, I will wait until my child goes to college."
"But now that I have cheated on myself, and I feel that I lack the confidence to initiate divorce from him, I just think that I can just let it be, just live with it and let nature take its course."
"I also know that I am still unhappy now. I am burdened with so many secrets. I am obviously very anxious and irritable, but I always try to force a smile."
"Cheating is like taking drugs. In addition to being addictive, it is also easy for people to fall into nothingness. During the process of cheating, when you are with your lover, you will indeed have short-term joy, and you may even feel like you are alive again, but Once you return home, face your husband and children, and realize that this is reality, this huge contrast will only make people fall into confusion and emptiness."
"This is the same as 'drug addicts have sex when taking drugs, but once the toxicity wears off, they will fall into emptiness."
"Retaliating for cheating with cheating is nothing more than drinking poison to quench thirst, but I am stuck in it and can't extricate myself."
"I really want to tell him everything in person, scold him, scold myself, and never have any contact with each other forever, but I don't have the courage, and I don't even dare to mention it to anyone. and these things about me.”
"I also know that this is very contradictory. I am obviously not afraid of divorcing Shang Biao, but I am afraid to talk to him about these things myself. This is just like when I went to his parents' house. It was obvious that I was not the one who cheated, but I didn't have the courage. Face his parents and expose his ugly face in person."
There is no doubt that the interrogation of Tan Mimi completely changed. It turned into two men listening carefully to the emotional catharsis of a married and cheating woman, and inadvertently allowed her to complete a psychological counseling.
In the process of Tan Mimi's emotional catharsis and psychological communication, she not only described in detail the emotional experience and psychological journey of a good woman who was "forced" to become a "broken shoe", but also fully demonstrated a new era woman. A new way for women to retaliate against their husbands for cheating is "you play with yours and I play with mine" and "repay cheating with cheating", which can be described as tooth for tooth and blood for blood.
Using herself as an example, Tan Mimi profoundly revealed a cruel fact: Once a woman wants to cheat, she will only do it worse than a man.
Among these women who habitually cheat, some tend to be greedy.
They not only crave the solidity, stability and dependence of their husbands, but also like the thoughtfulness, tenderness and romance of their lovers. For them, having both at the same time is the best choice.
If they are found out, they will of course return to their families, but they will not be willing to cut off contact with their lover. They will say that they have broken off, but they will not be willing to drive this person out of their lives. They will let their lover lie in their contact list, arguing that this is just an unimportant person.
They clearly distinguish between marriage and love. In front of their lovers, they feel that they are trapped in marriage and have no way to divorce. They can only fall in love with their lovers in pain. In front of their husbands, they feel that they are trapped in marriage.
It's just because you're not good at this or that, that's why I cheated on you. It's justified.
There are also some women who don't even consider whether it will lead to divorce when they cheat. Instead, she was taking a chance that she could avoid being discovered by her husband as long as she stayed hidden.
And when such a woman is discovered to have cheated, what she generally wants to do is not to break off the affair, but to pretend to regret it, so that she can deceive her husband and continue the extramarital affair. This may be due to the "greed" in the nature of women's thinking. There are very few cheating women who are willing to admit defeat and have the courage to take responsibility.
Such women seem to be born with a certain skill. For men who love them, they like to torture them, and of course they themselves will be tortured. After making a mistake, some people will cry bitterly and beg their men for forgiveness. Do you think that means they really love you as a man? That's because she knows that missing you, a green turtle, may not lead to a better successor in the future, and doing so will also give them some comfort.
For men, one thing must be understood: most wives have no love for their husbands long before they cheat. Even if there is still a little bit left, she is declared dead the first time she goes to bed with her lover. After cheating, she fell in love with her lover, not you. She and her lover are her own people, and you are the outsider.
So, don’t believe their nonsense like “I was wrong” and “I changed”.
Tan Mimi, in her own words, belongs to the category of "not afraid of the consequences and moving forward without fear". These women are often the "mudslide" in the cheating world, capable of crushing everything.
They are not afraid of being discovered at all, and they don't care at all whether their husbands will forgive or not forgive them after being discovered. If you want a divorce, they will divorce you. If you don't want a divorce, they will continue to live together with you, but they will definitely continue. Cheating.
At the same time, from a female perspective, Tan Mimi uses her own nuanced perception to highly summarize the psychology and emotions of cheaters, and even her personal feelings and views on cheating. In front of them, Yang Feng and Ouyang received a very vivid lesson about derailment.
This class is full of emotions, full of content, and full of human desires, thoughts and philosophy. It fully embodies the wise saying "Life is a bastard", but it seems to have nothing to do with the case they want to handle.
After all, Yang Feng and Ouyang are criminal police officers. Their duty and mission is to "eliminate harm for the people" and to find the real culprit in the current "Zhou Zhiying case". They are not just like the aunts on the streets, eating melon seeds and listening to music. People chatter.
Tan Mimi's confession was a bit unlike a "confession". Although it was different from their initial guesses, it also explained some questions very reasonably. They didn't expect to hear such explosive "gossip" from Tan Mimi.
It is not difficult to know whether what Tan Mimi said is true or false. All you need to do is find her four lovers and verify it.
But Yang Feng directly asked her fourth lover: "Have you developed feelings for your latest...'boyfriend?"
Tan Mimi's expression was obviously much more relaxed, and she felt obviously relieved after dumping her emotional garbage in this incredible way.
After hesitating for a moment, Tan Mimi finally nodded: "That's right..."
"Then why did we break up? Who initiated the breakup?"
Tan Mimi suddenly looked at Yang Feng in confusion: "Comrade police, are you handling the case, or are you collecting gossip about erotic history?"
"Just answer the questions." Yang Feng continued to look cold.
These stinking police officers don't understand the concept of compassion.
Tan Mimi could only reluctantly answer honestly: "We broke up just because we felt we were in love... This is an extramarital affair. If we don't break up, how can we take it home for the New Year? I mentioned breaking up. Once this kind of thing gets deeper and deeper, The deeper it goes, the more dangerous it will become.”
"You're not afraid of being discovered by Shang Biao anyway, so what's the danger?"
"He wants to marry me and want me to divorce Shang Biao... I think he probably takes it seriously. How can he and I get married? I have never lied to him. I told him from the beginning that I have a family, and I don't think he will. Seriously, it should be
He just wanted to go to bed with me, but I would have thought that he would actually take it seriously. As I said just now, once the cheating parties get married, the novelty and excitement brought by the affair will immediately disappear. "
After a pause, Tan Mimi continued:
"Besides, I'm really not afraid of being discovered by Shang Biao, but if I take the initiative to tell Shang Biao that I have another man outside and file for divorce with him, this is two different things than if Shang Biao finds out and he files for divorce."
"I'm afraid that I will fall into trouble, and if my head gets hot, I will actually marry him, so I will break up with him."
Neither Yang Feng nor Ouyang know women very well, so they can completely understand the first reason Tan Mimi said, but they are a little confused about the latter reason.
Women's thoughts and logic have never been inferred from a normal perspective.
Of course, what Yang Feng really cares about is not these: "Have you ever told him why you broke up?"
"I just said, my husband treats me very well and there is no way I can get divorced."
"Is he married?"
"Single, unmarried."
"After you broke up, has he been pestering you, including now? Is he still trying to win you back?"
Tan Mimi immediately opened her eyes: "How do you know?"
Yang Feng continued to ask: "Did he say anything to you that made you feel weird?"
