Sure enough, I still have to ask for leave...

The matter of visiting the graves of ancestors does not take much time.

But I can’t stand having so many relatives...

What makes people even more unhappy is that the relatives are not very reliable...

The customs here are actually not complicated, it is just a very common ancestor worship process.

We agreed to set off at 9:30 in the morning.

By the time everyone is here, it will be half past ten...an hour wasted.

Then the two uncles and grandfathers were a bit outrageous...

Every year when they visit their ancestors' graves, they have to go to my aunt's side first, which is a large tomb area near my home, so there is bound to be a traffic jam.

(Yes, they always take a whole family to someone else’s ancestral grave first... I don’t understand.)

By the time they finally arrived at their ancestral grave, it was already after one o'clock in the afternoon...

This is outrageous enough.

After all, according to custom, visiting the graves of ancestors must end before twelve o'clock noon...

This is not the most outrageous...

What follows is the outrageous beginning.

When a big family goes to the grave to worship their ancestors, my family needs to prepare food and money for ancestor worship.

(Originally, this has nothing to do with my family, each should prepare their own tribute, but they will choose to "take" part of it themselves.

For the sake of face and friendship between relatives, my family simply makes more preparations. Maybe this also encourages this unhealthy trend. )

Next we have to go to another cemetery. (This is the ancestral grave of a relative further away)

It’s not that they are so kind-hearted, but that this relative from a place so far away that I don’t even know how to talk about is a rich person…

They are still the type who are extremely rich. They are not in their hometown and cannot come back.

I left it to my two uncles and grandfathers. (It’s okay if we don’t see any of the benefits they give us.

But asking our family to pay the money and tribute required for worship is extravagant. Of course, the method is still to take it without telling you.

It's somewhat unpleasant to say "steal", so just use "take". )

When the round of worship is over, it will be after four o'clock when I return home...

I am from the northwest, my home is not in a big city, and the tomb area is on the desert sands of the Gobi Desert.

The wind is strong and the sun is strong, and it takes a whole day of wind and sand.

There is a cement factory next to my ancestral grave... Every time I go to the grave, I have to take a long detour. (Of course, it was the cement factory that came after my family’s ancestral grave)

Hmm... the road over there feels a bit similar to climbing over mountains and ridges.

Anyway, I have to carry the objects for worship and climb those sand dunes with one foot deep and one foot shallow... It is also the reason why I always get injured when I go to the graves to worship my ancestors.

My family lineage has been mercilessly controlled by them, and I feel bad every time.

This experience happens four times a year...

I also have to realize the truth many times every year that "if you are poor in the busy city, no one will ask you, but if you are rich in the mountains, you will have distant relatives."

Worshiping ancestors itself is just a matter of expressing grief.

As a result, one by one they became filial sons and grandsons of other families.

The problem is that it is true that the distant relatives have money, but can they spend it on them if they have money?

Furthermore, by worshiping other people’s ancestral graves, can they still make that wealthy relative grateful?

Do you want someone's ancestor to tell someone in their dream, "Oh, look how many times they come to worship every year. You need to give them money."

That doesn't make sense.

No matter how you put it, there are still other things to do, such as keeping the family's ancestral graves in an orderly manner and not following the customs. What's the point of being a filial son and grandson for someone else's family?

Of course, it is their business to have an agreement with that relative or to be able to get the money.

What makes me sad is not that our family didn't get a share of the benefits they got.

Our family has never asked them to go there.

Why bother with this kind of thing in our family! ?

Isn’t it good to prepare what others need by yourself? Wouldn’t it be nice to go to someone else’s ancestral grave by yourself?

If you don’t prepare tribute yourself, you will take it from us without telling us. Is this dissatisfaction with his ancestors?

Emotionally I really can't accept this kind of thing.

"When you are young, you are not a grandson, and when you are old, you have nothing to say, ___________!"

It’s really mentally and physically exhausted.