Chapter 661
While Chen Bo was drinking beer, he looked at Guan Chuxia, who spoke softly. Although she deliberately spoke slowly, Chen Bo could hear that every sentence and every word was like a hammer blow. Just like the steel drill, while it jingled, it was also deeply embedded in Chen Bo's heart.
"...Only as a basis can we maintain the relationship. If you can bring benefits and value to others, this relationship will take no effort. This is true for friendship, love, and family ties. If you cannot bring benefits and value to others, no matter you No matter how hard you work, you are not worth mentioning in front of them. Therefore, when you do not have the interests and values that the other party needs, and you care about this relationship very much, you can only pay the price by consuming yourself."
"Naturally, you will be humble, and then you will appear like a slave who flatters, grovels, and fawns over you. When your abilities are insufficient, you care about things that you shouldn't care about. This is the fundamental reason why you feel pain. Some people call this kind of emotion internal friction. Now you can’t provide Xiaoyan with a better platform than Guilu Group. If you want her to give up, you’re doing it under the guise of doing her best, how can she agree?”
"Chen Bo, from now on, you have to think clearly about a problem and always remind yourself that as an individual, you are limited. If you don't understand this, you will try your best to do things beyond your capabilities and let yourself go. It’s not worth your blood to help your relatives and friends..."
The most stupid thing people do is to try to change others. The more you think about doing good for others, the more others will hate you. The more you think that something precious may be worthless in the eyes of the other person. Human nature is self-righteous. People are willing to change themselves because of you. Unless you can give them the benefits they want, your preaching will not be as good as shit.
Chen Bo was speechless, but he vaguely felt that Guan Chuxia was right.
Chen Lili poured a glass of water for her. He felt that Guan Chuxia talked a bit too much tonight and she must be thirsty.
She continued:
Many things are inherent in human nature. They are very stubborn, extremely stupid, and paranoid to the bone.
If they do not encounter major setbacks in life, 80% of people will not have a true awakening, let alone change. As the saying goes, it is easy to change the situation, but hard to change the nature.
Therefore, smart people seldom educate and convince others, even if they are related by blood, such as our future children, me, your partner, your parents, including Xiaoyan, the same is true. You can talk and she will listen. If you don't listen, you will be pulled down.
As for other people, you don’t even have to say anything, just nod your head and that’s it.
Human nature is what it is, and people cannot be changed.
So, don’t try to teach your child to study hard unless he realizes the importance of studying. Don’t try to convince your partner to work hard unless she has been beaten up by society. Don’t try to convince your parents. Give up old thoughts and ideas unless he has figured it out himself.
Personal cognitive awakening will not happen when the years are quiet. If you have not experienced the beatings of society, the ruthlessness of reality, the pressure of money, the unbearable love, the sinisterness of the human heart, and the deception of emotions, this person will never mature. .
He is just a giant baby. Even after forty years and even with a head full of white hair, no one can make a stubborn person reborn and change his destiny. Only suffering, poverty, lovelorn, bankruptcy, and debt can make people gradually wake up and Change.
Always remain silent when facing a stubborn person, don't persuade, don't reason, don't do the so-called good for him. Your kindness and good intentions will only make others feel disgusted with you, and will only increase your own troubles and consumption. Your life energy.
Chen Bo, you just need to remember that you are limited and you can't save anyone.
If in the future I persuade you like you did Chen Xiaoyan, you tell me these words and remind me. Let's remind each other, okay? This way there will be a lot less conflicts between us.
Life is very short. As each day passes, you may face unexpected natural and man-made disasters. Once one party leaves first, look back and think about it. If there are not many happy days and you are busy trying to change the other party, will you regret it? , will you feel it’s not worth it?
Chen Bo was in awe of Guan Chuxia's open-mindedness and transparency. He couldn't help but stand up and stood opposite Guan Chuxia. He lowered his hands and bowed respectfully.
"What?" Guan Chuxia was stunned and asked.
"My wife's words made me suddenly enlightened. I felt that I had lived in vain for the first half of my life. I was doing this and that, but I never thought of what I wanted."
Chen Bo sat back on the sofa and leaned towards Guan Chuxia. Guan Chuxia moved slightly to the side and let him lie on his lap.
"When I say this today, I don't mean to change you. I just feel it and miss my dad." Guan Chuxia's hand rubbed back and forth on Chen Bo's chin, and needle-like stubble appeared again over the course of the day.
Just as Chen Bo reached out to touch the softness close at hand, his cell phone rang at an inappropriate time.
Guan Chuxia stretched out her hand and saw that it was Zu Wenjun calling.
Guan Chuxia answered the call directly without being polite.
"Sister-in-law, it's so late, is something okay?" Guan Chuxia asked, clearing her throat.
"As for Chen Bo, tell him that Bai Yongnian has been extubated. If you want to see him, ask him to come to the hospital when he has time." Zu Wenjun said.
"Okay, I understand, he is taking a shower."
"Okay, that's it, good night." After Zu Wenjun finished speaking, he hung up.
Hearing this, Chen Bo opened his eyes and looked at Guan Chuxia's face. Looking up at Guan Chuxia's face from this angle, it didn't look good at all and was a bit ugly. This was a baby's perspective.
"Did you hear that?"
"I heard it, you are telling lies now." Chen Bo slowly sat up with Guan Chuxia's help.
"What else can I say? If you are idle, I will answer your call and make you lose face. I understand this." Guan Chuxia stuck out her tongue playfully and said.
Chen Bo was very clear in his heart. Guan Chuxia had always been wary of Zu Wenjun's affection for her. In fact, she was too worried. He could manipulate Yu Wenlan with a revengeful attitude, but for Zu Wenjun , he just dared to look at it twice more, and didn't dare to do anything more than that.
Chen Bo put Guan Chuxia to bed, not knowing when he would come back.
When he arrived at the hospital, in a separate ward, Bai Yongnian looked at the ceiling alone, not knowing what he was thinking.
Chen Bo walked over, pulled up a chair and sat down, and handed Bai Yongnian's mobile phone into his hand. His face was very calm. From Chen Bo's eyes, Bai Yongnian knew that everything was irreversible.
