Fengfan Elementary School subsequently held another parent forum regarding the Yan Ziyou incident, advising parents not to pay too much attention to their children's grades and ignore their children's psychological needs.
Children are also human beings and have their own ideas and preferences. Blind suppression and restriction will be detrimental to the growth and development of children.
A good child should have a sound personality, a healthy mentality, a positive attitude, a happy life, and a harmonious parent-child relationship.
Achievement is only an insignificant aspect and should not be overemphasized.
It's just that although the principal and teachers talked about it, broke it apart, crushed it into pieces, and explained the truth, there were not many parents who could listen to the advice and reduce the burden on their children.
Most of the parents listened to Ziyou's story, but they just sighed for a while, and then they just did whatever they needed to do.
As Hegel said, the only lesson mankind has learned from history is that mankind cannot learn any lessons from history.
Even if living examples are right in front of them, they basically turn a blind eye.
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The same goes for Nan Li, who still presses Xia Huanhuan to learn, and even uses Mi Tao as an example.
"Look at Mi Tao, the children from rural areas have much worse learning conditions than you. They don't even have their own bedroom. They live in the attic with their parents. It's difficult to move around in such a small place.
But if you look at their grades, they always come in first place. They also won first prize in the Selective Cup and will definitely enter the Hanlin Academy next year.
Look at you again, what are your conditions? When have your parents ever owed you something, but where are your achievements? Now he is still at the bottom of the class, and it is not certain whether he will be admitted to the Hanlin Academy next year. Are you going to hang out like this for the rest of your life? "Nan Li urged her daughter to learn Tao.
When Xia Junshan heard what she said, he couldn't help but frown, "I say, what you said is a bit too much. Although Huanhuan's grades are worse, you can't say that to her."
"Isn't this for her own good? If I don't speak harshly, how can I arouse her competitive spirit?" Nan Li explained, "Well, as long as she has more ambition and is half as self-conscious as Mi Tao, I won't That’s what the leader said about her.”
"Mi Tao is Mi Tao, and Huanhuan is Huanhuan. Can you please not put the two together?" Fake, but our Huanhuan is also versatile, isn’t this also her strength.”
"So what if you are versatile? Can you test it during the exam? Is it so good that you can get extra points in the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, and can make a living on it?" When Nan Li heard this, she immediately said plausibly, "If she can really be like those Lang Lang and Ding Junhui , Han Han, who is so talented that he became famous at a young age, I can’t wait to do that.
But is your daughter that successful? In the end, it is not like other children, high school entrance examination, college entrance examination, and employment. So she and Mi Tao competed in the same way, both relying on their results.
When the time comes, Mi Tao will take the exams for key junior high schools, key high schools, and key universities. As for your daughter, she will be admitted to ordinary junior high school, technical secondary school, technical school, or at most a junior college.
Let me ask you, apart from the janitors and cleaning aunts, does anyone in your company have a bachelor's degree or below? "
Xia Junshan was speechless by her question.
Indeed, as a top architectural design company in the industry, their employees are basically top students who graduated in 1985 or 2012, including many master's degree students and international students. There are really no college graduates.
"That's the truth, but can you use some methods and speak softly?" Xia Junshan finally advised.
"There's no time. It's not like you don't know that your daughter is a cyclist. She can only walk once she pedals, but she won't walk until she pedals." Nan Li said helplessly, "In less than a year, she will be promoted to junior high school. , do you really plan to let her go to Fengfan Middle School?
Are you willing to not give it a try and try your best to become a member of the Imperial Academy? Don’t you want her to be admitted to a key junior high school or a key high school in the future, and then be promoted to a key university? "
"Of course I have thought about it, but I can't be so forceful." Xia Junshan said helplessly.
Everyone hopes that their children will become successful, so how could he be an exception? But what happened to Ziyou just happened, and he was really worried that something would happen to his daughter as well.
"I can't help it. You have tutored her in her studies before. Will she listen when you talk well? After three hours of homework, I wish I could play for two and a half hours. If I don't push harder, she will linger until eleven or twelve o'clock. Nan Li said speechlessly, "Our president told me that our class is the most vulnerable to decline."
Don't look at it, you and I are both senior white-collar workers, with high education, high status, and high income. But none of our advantages can be passed on to our children.
If Huanhuan and Chaochao fail to get into a good school, they will have to work in basic jobs in the future and fall from the middle class to the low-income. So, don’t think how good our family is.
If Huanhuan and Chaochao don't do their best, our family's future will be a tragedy, and it won't even be as good as Mi Tao's family. At least Mi Tao works hard enough and will have no problem becoming a high-level white-collar worker in the future. "
After hearing what she said, Xia Junshan couldn't help but sigh after thinking about it carefully.
Although he didn't agree with Nanli Jiwa, what she said did make sense.
Their family is in a pretty good situation now. Both of them have stable wages and are both considered high-level white-collar workers. But their knowledge, education, jobs, status, and even connections cannot be passed on to their children.
If children want to get these, they can only rely on their own efforts. Otherwise, the class will slip at any time, from middle class to low income. When the time comes, work a low-income wage and marry an average man...
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Xia Junshan had nothing to say, so Nanli Jiwa naturally worked harder, urging her to study from time to time and beating her with rice peaches, which made Xia Huanhuan become more and more disgusted with studying and began to hate rice peaches.
At the same time, Yan Peng also started a divorce lawsuit with Tian Yulan.
Originally, he wanted to have a good deal and break up. He had prepared the divorce agreement, and because of his past kindness, he was also planning to leave the house they lived in now to Tian Yulan.
But Tian Yulan didn't want anything, she just wanted custody of Yan Ziyou.
Naturally, the Yan family firmly refused to allow this.
Yan Ziyou is a descendant of the Yan family. Although she is sick now, the Yan family can afford to support her. If left to Tian Yulan, the child might be tortured to death by her.
In order to get custody of their grandson, they were even willing to pay Tian Yulan more money to avoid further complications.
But Tian Yulan refused and wanted to take custody of his son.
If negotiations fail, the only option is to go to court.
The Yan family spread the word that since Tian Yulan was so ignorant of praise, nothing would be left for her.
The house that was originally intended to be given to her will be taken back.
Yan Peng's parents bought this house with money. They are businessmen and they like to keep receipts when doing business. If those receipts are still in their hands, it will be very useful evidence.
