Hearing what Xiang Nan said, Nan Li and Xia Junshan both became interested.
"Junior brother, tell me, how should we cultivate children's self-control?" Xia Junshan quickly asked for advice.
"Children are naturally lively and active. Even the most honest children can't help but move their hands and feet when they see something they are interested in. This is determined by hormones and is not based on human will." Xiang Nan laughed. road,
"So in order to cultivate children's self-control, it is difficult for them to do it alone. At this time, parents must take responsibility and set clear goals for them. When and what to do, they must plan.
If you fail to achieve the goal, you will be punished, and if you achieve the goal, you will be rewarded. Only by persevering can you cultivate children's self-control. Just like washing your face, brushing your teeth, and washing your feet, you have to teach them over and over again in the beginning. Later, if you didn't let her wash it, she wouldn't agree to it. "
"Well, that makes sense." Nan Li and Xia Junshan looked at each other and both felt that Xiang Nan was right.
Just like Chaochao, he didn't like bathing very much when he was a child. Every time he took a bath, it was like a war. Now I am addicted to washing. When the time comes every day, I rush to the bathroom.
"Brother and sister-in-law, you need to remember one thing. Cultivating self-control is not a matter of just a word. You must be cruel and perseverant." Xiang Nan smiled and said, "I know that you two are slaves to your daughter, and you have always been supportive. She is doting on Huanhuan and becomes soft-hearted when her daughter is unhappy.
But I advise you to hold on. Otherwise, as long as you relax once, there will be a second, third, and fourth time, and all the previous efforts will be wasted.
If you follow the rules, you will be born in the world, and if you go against the rules, you will be immortal. To practice amazing skills, you need to work hard. Studying has never been an easy task. The four of you and I have all come from school days. None of us has ever gotten up early and gone to bed late, and none of us has ever forgotten to eat or sleep.
It is precisely because of our efforts back then that we are now able to sit and eat in such a high-end restaurant. Otherwise, we might not even dare to enter. "
"Yes." Nanli and Xia Junshan both nodded.
The two of them were able to get into prestigious universities because of their hard work. Therefore, Xiang Nan's words were in line with their wishes.
Even Zhang Xueer felt that Xiang Nan was right.
Although she doesn't agree with chicken babies, she still agrees with cultivating children's self-control.
After all, how can a person who can't even control himself be able to hold important positions in the future?
…
Seeing that Nanli and Xia Junshan had listened, Xiang Nan couldn't help but smile and nod.
He knew that Xia Huanhuan's self-control was very poor.
As long as there are no parents watching, she will indulge herself. , read comics, and even break the eraser into pieces. The homework that can be done in half an hour cannot be completed even if it takes three hours.
Xia Junshan and Nan Li should also be blamed for this.
He always advocates happy education and does not restrict her. As the saying goes, if a small tree is not repaired, it will not have direct current, and if a person is not repaired, it will be weak. Xia Huanhuan has not been restrained since she was a child, so it is easy for her to develop bad study habits.
From kindergarten to now, at least six years ago, it has become a habit. A situation is easy to change, but a temperament is hard to change. Once a habit is formed, it is difficult to change even if you want to.
Just like once a person gets used to smoking, his mouth will feel empty even if he doesn't hold one in his mouth.
What's even more troublesome is that Xia Huanhuan's ability to withstand stress is extremely fragile. She cries constantly and even vomits when she gets excited.
So this made it difficult for Xia Junshan and Nan Li to restrain her cruelly.
This creates a difficult situation.
Bad habits have been formed. If left alone, the children's academic performance will not improve, and parents will become anxious.
If you do, the kids won't listen at all. If the control is too strict, the children will get sick.
After tossing and tossing like this, the final result is a lose-lose situation.
Although the play has a seemingly bright ending, Nanli is no longer a chicken baby, Huanhuan is relieved, and the family is happy again.
But as Nan Li said, can you escape from elementary school to junior high school, high school entrance examination, and college entrance examination? When the time comes, you will still be anxious when you should be anxious, and you will still be in pain when you should be painful.
If you are reluctant to discipline your children, society will help you make up for it.
Xiang Nan also grew up as a child, so he still doesn't understand this truth.
…
After chatting for a while, everyone dispersed.
When Xia Junshan called the waiter to settle the bill, he realized that Xiang Nan had already settled the bill.
This made Xia Junshan and Nan Li very embarrassed.
It was agreed that Xiang Nan and Zhang Xueer would be invited to dinner, but in the end, they settled the bill.
"Junior brother, you..." Xia Junshan was a little embarrassed.
"Brother, eating is for communicating feelings. Whoever spends money is not spending money." Xiang Nan smiled and said, "Don't argue with me about this."
"Yes, I hope everyone is happy." Zhang Xueer also smiled.
Xia Junshan and Nan Li looked at each other, feeling extremely sorry.
However, seeing Xiang Nan and Zhang Xueer insisting so much, they could only smile and nod.
"Okay, you get to invite me this time, and I will definitely invite you next time." Xia Junshan thought for a moment and said.
"Okay, there's a chance." Xiang Nan nodded.
…
Afterwards, the four of them called for a driver and left separately.
"Zhong Yi, I think Huanhuan's parents are pretty good." Zhang Xueer said with a smile on the way.
Xia Junshan and Nan Li are well-educated, well-educated, and well-spoken people. It's actually quite fun to chat with them.
"They are both good." Xiang Nan nodded, "Otherwise, Huanhuan's character would not be so lively, cheerful, and enthusiastic. This is obviously a character that can only be developed by being born in a happy and happy family.
Instead, look at Yan Ziyou. Compared to Huanhuan, he is much duller. Moreover, have you noticed that he likes to pick his fingers and often has wounds on his hands? These are all manifestations of excessive pressure, leading to self-abuse. "
Zhang Xueer was stunned and said in surprise, "Really or not?! I really didn't notice this."
"If you don't believe me, you can look back and take a closer look." Xiang Nan nodded, "In my opinion, this is not surprising. His mother is so weird. She said bad words without understanding the situation. Offended people, and then I can't afford the consequences, so I give you a bottle of red wine.
From these two incidents, it can be seen that she is short-sighted, impulsive, irritable, and fierce. With a mother like her, no matter how good the child is, nothing can be learned. If you don’t believe it, just watch. Yan Ziyou’s studies have deteriorated significantly in just this six months. "
"No way?!" Zhang Xueer couldn't believe it.
"From the last math test, it can be seen that Yan Ziyou's learning ability is average." Xiang Nan explained, "He has been taking tutoring classes since the first grade to compete for the Mathematical Olympiad. It stands to reason that he is better than his classmates. .
But the last test was just a little over the top and the questions were a little weird, so he couldn't do it. This shows that he has learned all the Mathematical Olympiad in vain and has not developed any mathematical thinking ability. Continuing to study will be in vain. "
Zhang Xueer nodded after hearing this.
Yan Ziyou has been taking tutoring since the first grade, so it stands to reason that her learning progress is faster than that of her classmates. This has also allowed him to consistently rank among the best in recent years.
In the last proficiency test, although the math questions were over the syllabus, they were not too high. He should have learned them in a cram school. But she didn't answer, which shows that his mathematical foundation is not solid enough.
Just like a bear breaking off sticks, one by one and thrown away. If you learn something in the past but forget it later, the possibility of a decline in performance for such a child is indeed very high.
