"For example, the full dowry is 36 taels. Here we have to mention the earliest dowry, which is not really something that a woman will use throughout her life. In Zhou rites, getting married is a representative of adulthood, indicating that the two people can afford a home. , can become other people’s parents.
Because of this, the earliest betrothal gift and dowry are roughly equivalent to the parents giving their children independence and preparing start-up funds.
The man's family prepares a house and gives the woman more than three betrothal gifts, which are considered extravagant; then the woman prepares furniture, necessary daily necessities, and if she is more thoughtful, some production materials so that the young couple can stand on their own feet.
Nowadays, when the marriage is set, the woman has to send someone to the husband's house to measure the house and then fill it up. Daily necessities such as washbasins, toilets, and bedding must be kept in pairs. Said that these things are not only for the woman to use.
When all these things are ready, it means that the young couple has the basic configuration for independent life, which also means that they have a certain amount of private property.
I don’t know since when, there has been a saying that dowry is something that a woman will need throughout her life. Then there were 72 lifts, 108 lifts...
So there are some unlimited increases! She has everything she needs including food, clothing, housing and transportation, and she also has to pay for her daughter’s farm, shop, and luggage.
There is another saying about pressed silver. It was originally a pure gold coffin. What does this mean? When our daughter dies, this small coffin will be the money for her funeral...
You really don’t need any stitches or stitches from your husband’s family!
It seemed to be talking about the Yue family's love and distress for their daughter. In fact, whether this is good or bad, the good thing is obvious. The daughter holds a large dowry and holds her head high in her husband's house. But, can it be happy? I have to say here that in a marriage, the weakest one is always the woman. It doesn’t matter whether she has money or not. It doesn’t matter how much money she brings if she can’t raise her temper.
The point is, how many families are there like this? If there is a trend of comparison, how do the dowries of the same family with many children compare with that of an only daughter? If a family has exhausted its financial resources and either has no money to marry into an equal family, then marrying into an unequal family is really no different from selling a girl. "
Ou Mengmeng shook her head as she spoke, as if she didn't see anyone saying that Xiong Xing had arrived.
"Old lady, how about I take the little aunts to study?" Qin Keqing took advantage of the old lady's time to breathe, and hurriedly slapped Ou Mengmeng on her back, saying with a smile. In fact, I just told the old lady to stop talking and look at the poor mother-in-law who reported.
"Really, how can a family that keeps filial piety allow a foreigner to enter at will?" Ou Mengmeng gave Qin Keqing a roll of her eyes and turned to the woman, "Take him to see the eldest master and tell him that I am asleep."
The mother-in-law didn't even say a word, she just went out to reply.
Ou Mengmeng took a sip of water and was about to talk about dowry. In fact, she really felt that the dowry culture has similar views in ancient and modern times. It is all about saving money for young people. For example, the later dowry is twice the betrothal gift. In fact, many families let their daughters take away the betrothal gift plus an equal dowry. This is a typical example of this kind of consciousness.
But then, it seemed that things slowly changed. That's it, everyone wants to make the other person's private, but they can never share it with the other person.
Just as he was about to continue, he saw everyone below him, including Moto Chun, staring at him.
"The time is wrong!" Ou Mengmeng pointed to the clock. Everyone looked at the time together, and most of them were still confused. Thinking about it, "It is only an hour before Princess Longchang leaves, and today is not a holiday. It is impossible for Academician Xiong and Xiong Hanlin to be home at noon. This is where Xiong Xing comes. , when I saw him, I instigated the relationship between mother and son. I didn’t even see the boss today, so asking him to see the boss is both emotionally and logically appropriate.”
"It seems that life is full of knowledge." Baochai was really impressed. Now she really admired the old lady so much. .
Everyone also looked at the big clock together. Thinking about it, if Princess Longchang had just gone home directly, then Xiong Er should be the only one at home who was waiting for the letter. In such a short hour, we also need to include the time spent on the road to Princess Longchang, the time to change clothes at home, the time to have lunch, and the time Xiong Er arrived at Jia's house. Then, the time they can talk (dispute) is Very limited. At this time, the old lady saw him, didn't she feel uncomfortable? The point is, it has no real effect. because
At this time, apart from quarreling, mother and son could not reach any agreement.
"But it's still good. At least I know that Mr. Xiong Er really has a deep love for my eldest aunt." Qin Keqing smiled happily and patted the back of Yuan Chun's hand with a teasing look on his face.
"So you really need to study hard with Brother Rong and his wife. At this point in time, what I see is the discord between mother and son, but what Brother Rong and his wife see is the sincerity of Mr. Xiong Er. Very good!" Ou Mengmeng hurriedly started. Praise Qin Keqing.
"Then, will the princess agree?" Tanchun was still feeling uneasy. She felt that since her grandmother had identified the second husband Xiong, if this thing went wrong, the eldest sister would be the unlucky one.
"So I started to choose someone else. There are hundreds of girls in the family, but men are pretty much the same. If you don't kneel down and beg, I won't marry you. The harder it is to beg, the more you will cherish it. This is what I and I did this morning. We all want to cherish our children as the focus of the princess's offense and defense." Ou Mengmeng smiled and shook her head, "So the princess is right to do this, and you also think I was wrong just now. Marriage is a game, do you understand? ? You will also be matrons in the future, so you should watch it carefully this time so that it can be used in the future. Of course, do you know what is the most difficult point in this game?"
Ou Mengmeng looked at the children below, but her eyes rested on Tanchun.
Tan Chun's heart trembled, but he didn't dare to speak.
"Trust, trust from your family, and your own self-confidence. You have to believe that you deserve the best. If I were fighting at the front and you stabbed me in the back and ran away with someone else, what would I do? What if? I felt bad and turned it down. You hate me and think I ruined your happiness. What should I do?"
"How is that possible?" Lin Daiyu looked puzzled. "We are going to elope with one foot and eight feet. Who are we going to elope with? Even if the adults talk about marriage, they won't tell us. In fact, the old lady told us so. It’s inconsistent with etiquette.”
"Not bad, not bad, that's good, I'll think about it now." Ou Mengmeng smiled and tapped her nose, "What I did was not in line with etiquette. That's because I'm old and I don't have time to teach you slowly. Also Yes, I’m afraid that by the time you choose someone, I’ll be gone, and you’ll have to rely on yourselves by then. So I have to teach you all these things!”
Yuan Chun gently hugged Ou Mengmeng, feeling a little sad.
"Only by self-reliance and self-reliance can you save yourself." Ou Mengmeng ignored Yuan Chun, took a scroll, and gently tapped each of the five little girls. Her girls should not look down on themselves. Their self-confidence cannot be easily knocked away with a little dowry. Although she will also prepare dowries for them, she must first help these children build up their self-confidence.
If someone really comes to ask for marriage, I wish I could die for my confidant! They have only met a few men, and among the men they have met, is there any good man among the Jia family?
