"I have said to myself that all living beings are equal, but those who betray the country are base. Don't you know?
The three obediences and the four virtues are: obey (obey) the father before marrying, obey (assist) the husband when married, and obey (raise) the son after the husband dies. It sounds nice, but they are just shackles deliberately imposed on others by those who misinterpret the meaning of the saint for their own benefit.
Only by moving in the right direction can we reach our goal.
If their father is a gambler, their husband is a beast, and their children are still crying for food, then who should they listen to?
If a family wants to live a good life, at least the general direction must not be wrong. If you bet this thing can be avoided, then don't touch it.
But how many people can do it?
Since ancient times, gambling has led to the destruction of families and the separation of wives and children.
Why? It's because everyone is in charge of the gamblers. Although I have state-run casinos and set the upper limit of daily gambling wins and losses, I still can't control those who want to gamble.
In this case, what do you think the women in their family should do? 】
And I ask you, what would you think if someone hit your daughter? "
"Your Majesty, the common people don't know."
"I know clearly that what you are saying is just for your own benefit.
As for the four virtues
"Four Virtues" was originally the training and cultivation of the four necessary cultivations for palace women - virtue (virtue), speech (words), appearance (appearance), and skills (gong). It included the four traditional "women's studies" This is the content of education, so Confucianism calls it the "Four Teachings", also called the "Four Elements".
It originated from the education of women in the palace and belonged to the "Yin rituals" (etiquette observed by women) and "Yin duties" (responsibility of women). It soon expanded to the cultivation of women's roles in upper-class families. Junqu Pavilion
When a girl is ten years old, she receives education from a female teacher at home - she is taught "good manners and obedience" (morality, speech, appearance, pliability and obedience), holding a hemp bag (spinning and twisting hemp threads). Ancient clothes were mostly made of hemp, kudzu and silk. ), curing silk cocoons, weaving and making clothes, and learning a series of tasks to prepare for sacrifices and assist in sacrifices (gong, weaving, sewing, preparing meals, wine, etc.). Three months before getting married, the clan invites female teachers to train the women and "teach them women's virtues, women's speech, women's appearance, and women's skills." After the training is completed, a sacrificial ceremony is held to make the women "obedient."
It can be seen that the "Four Virtues" serve the "Three Obediences" morality. The "Four Virtues" were later generalized as requirements for all women. According to Zheng Xuan's explanation: "A woman's virtue is called chastity and obedience, a woman's words are called rhetoric, a woman's appearance is called a graceful childbirth, and women's skills are called silk." Later generations have been making new explanations.
Zheng Xuan's "chastity and obedience" is the core of women's virtue. "Zhen" means adhering to one's integrity, guarding one's body like jade, and being loyal to one's husband; "shun" means "obedience" as mentioned in the "Book of Rites", being courteous and courteous to one's parents-in-law, husband, and even to everyone in the family.
I still agree with this, but now I want to ask, are there few people who are passive and do nothing to bully their parents-in-law?
Rules can only be called rules if they are binding on everyone, otherwise they will be a tool to suppress the people.
In the hearts of you old stubborns, etiquette and etiquette have always been more important than law, but don’t you know how many of those so-called etiquette are inappropriate?
I know, of course you know, you also grew up, and you also changed from calling others grandpa to your own grandson's grandpa, but you just don't change, and you always make excuses for team training. ".
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