"You will graduate soon. Over the years, you have also interned at the Chamber of Commerce. Maybe many people think that it is just talking, and who can't do it?
But I can tell you that the difference during this period has been huge.
Some people, after going to the store for less than a month, are not only liked by all the clerks and shopkeepers, but also gain the trust of many customers.
However, some people have been helping in the store for more than a year. Not only have their relationships with the clerks not been good, but they have also made the shopkeeper very angry.
After class, you can communicate with each other and see where the gap is between you and others. "
"But don't be discouraged. Most people are good at talking. The reason why they don't exert its infinite power is just because they don't know how to use it.
In other words, the vast majority of you have good expression skills, but you just don’t know how to use them. Now I will give you a brief explanation of how to speak,"
“The Ming Dynasty is a country of etiquette, which pays great attention to etiquette and politeness.
As the saying goes, it is not strange to be polite to many people. I'm talking about etiquette, not gifts.
In Ming Dynasty, polite people are the most popular.
The best way to express politeness is through language. So, what kind of language expression is polite and popular? Generally speaking, polite language expression includes characteristics such as implicit, tactful, modest, and low-key.
To put it bluntly, you will find that the core of polite words is etiquette and politeness. "
"The advantage of speaking implicitly is to leave room for communication with each other."
"Let me give you an example."
"Everyone has heard of Xiao He, the famous prime minister of the Western Han Dynasty.
Xiao Hehe is good at managing politics, but he is not very good at talking.
He saw that the cultivated land in Chang'an was small and the people lacked food and clothing, but there was a lot of wasteland in the royal Shanglin Garden for raising animals. So he suggested to Liu Bang that these wastelands should be distributed to the people for farming.
Unexpectedly, Liu Bang was very unhappy after reading Xiao He's memorial, and had Xiao He imprisoned. Everyone thought that Xiao He had made a serious mistake and no one dared to defend him.
At this time, there was a guard named Wang Weiwei, who usually admired Xiao He's character. When talking with Liu Bang, he asked by the way: "What serious crime did Xiao Xiangguo commit?"
Liu Bangyu said angrily: "Don't mention him. Whenever I mention him, I get angry. I remember when Li Si was the prime minister of Qin, he would mention the monarch's hard work and credit when he did good deeds, and he would take the initiative to take responsibility for any mistakes. Responsibility. Now Xiao He asks me to open Shanglin Garden for the people to cultivate. Am I the only one who is a good person and I am an unjust and foolish king?"
After hearing this, Wang Weiwei realized that Liu Bang was feeling uncomfortable, so he said: "Your Majesty, you must have mistrusted the Prime Minister. If the Prime Minister had such thoughts, he could have easily taken control of Guanzhong when your Majesty had been on an expedition for several years. Why should we use a mere royal garden to show favor to the people and win people’s hearts?”
After listening to Wang Weiwei's words, Liu Bang felt that it was somewhat reasonable. Although he was not very happy, he was still grateful for Xiao He's dedication to the country, and ordered Xiao He to be released that day.
At that time, Xiao He was over 60 years old. When he came out of prison, he was wearing a torture device, his hair was disheveled and his feet were barefoot. He was filthy. He did not dare to go back to the house to take a bath, so he hurried to the temple to thank him.
When Liu Bang saw Xiao He's embarrassment, he felt very sorry and comforted Xiao He: "Prime Minister, don't be too polite! I won't allow you to petition for the people this time. This is my fault. I am an unscrupulous emperor, and you are A virtuous prime minister. The reason why I imprison you is to let the people know your virtuousness and my faults!"
There was something in Liu Bang's words, but the meaning was very clear. After hearing this, Xiao He finally understood his problem, so he cried on the ground and apologized quickly.
Xiao He almost got killed because he didn't know how to express opinions.
Looking back at what Liu Bang said, it is very implicit, but it is worthy of our study and thinking.
In this story, although from the perspective of ordinary people, Xiao He did nothing wrong. So much cultivated land should be used to raise wild animals, and it is better to give it to the people.
On the one hand, it can solve the problem of cultivated land, and at the same time increase local grain production and alleviate the pressure of grain loss in other places on the court.
2. It can also increase the court's tax revenue.
No matter how you look at it, no matter how you think about it, it is a great thing that benefits the country and the people.
But let's not forget that the emperor is different from other people.
The emperor had to take care of everything and had to deal with a lot of things every day.
Many times, some people whom the emperor particularly trusted would use the emperor's trust to do some illegal things.
Under such circumstances, a wise emperor would not have 100% trust in his ministers.
Even for those who grew up with the emperor, the emperor may not completely trust them.
If you say this at this time, it is easy for the emperor to mistake you for being disloyal.
