Mingyi nodded repeatedly while listening, and she had to say that her father in this life was a wise man.
He is not like the despicable habits of men nowadays. He is independent-minded and well-informed. He is filial to his parents but not stupid, and he is kind to his wife and children. In terms of guiding his children, he is wiser than Chen Daya.
Although Chen Daya's education for her children is a little better than that of current lower-class women, it is just that.
Cheng Yuanxi is different. He will tell his children that they are just growing up and eliminate the embarrassment, guilt, guilt, inferiority and helplessness of their children as they grow up.
Let your children view their own behavior and mind correctly, so that they will not be unable to see themselves clearly in the various feelings that arise from being at a loss.
Unable to see themselves clearly, or even unable to face the bad feelings and cognitions that arise, most people choose to escape. In fact, such escape is not a solution. If you escape too much, it will form a habit.
Whatever happens in the future, I will subconsciously avoid it.
Raising children is not easy!
"Dad, is it right to not want to share what my sister and I got with others?" Cheng Mingli asked for the first time the doubts in his heart, "Isn't it selfish?"
Cheng Yuanxi chuckled and said nonchalantly, "Do you remember what my husband once taught you? If you are successful, you can help the world, and if you are poor, you can live alone."
"I'm poor!" Cheng Mingli's eyes shone slightly.
"Yes, we are all poor. We don't have extra money or food, so we can't help too many people. However, we helped many people along the way. That's because we found a lot of cassava, which was enough for us to eat for a month. Under such circumstances, why not help a group of tribesmen who are in more need."
"This is not selfish, it's because we are human beings. As your father, your mother's husband, and your grandparents' son, I have to take care of you first before I can say I take care of others. This is my responsibility. .”
"The responsibility of being a human being."
"Today, dad will teach you a truth. In life, responsibility comes first." Cheng Yuanxi smiled warmly, looked at his son, and then at his daughter, "The same is true for Yiyi, everything is about yourself; people must learn to love themselves first Then love others, and while loving others, be clear about your own responsibilities."
"You find meat and don't want to share it. That's not your fault. It's because you have suffered too much. You know that your parents are the most important in your hearts; others come behind, including your grandparents. .”
"It's not wrong. Grandparents and grandparents are dad's responsibility, and parents are your responsibility. You can take care of yourself and find meat to eat while taking care of your parents. You have done a good job."
Mingyi was very emotional. After traveling through so many worlds, she had never met a father like Cheng Yuanxi; tolerant, loving, kind and wise, and unique in educating his children.
"Dad, I know, I will not let other people's words influence me, nor will I rank myself behind everyone; I will shoulder the responsibilities that are my responsibility. I am not afraid of these, but I understand that people must have a sense of boundaries. ." Therefore, she seems to be acting selfishly in many cases.
Cheng Mingli's eyes changed, and a kind of transparent mind began to show.
Cheng Mingyi's smile did not diminish and she asked: "So, what about the clan that dad, grandfather and the clan leader often talk about."
Cheng Mingli subconsciously looked at his father and wanted to know how his father explained it.
My father's words conflicted with my grandfather's education.
My grandfather taught me that family comes first, while my father taught us that responsibility comes first.
Two different educational methods, but to a certain extent they lead to the same goal.
"Yiyi asked a good question. The principle of putting clan first was mentioned repeatedly by my grandfather and clan leader; clan is also your responsibility, it is our responsibility, and there is no conflict."
"It's the same principle. If you are prosperous, you can help the world, and if you are poor, you can only take care of yourself."
"If we are rich, we will naturally give back to the clan; if we are not rich, then it is best to live our own lives and not cause trouble to the clan."
Cheng Mingli formed his own set of thinking patterns in his mind.
"Dad, I understand." Cheng Mingli nodded firmly, with unprecedented determination in his eyes, "If you can't take care of yourself, your wife, children, and family, how can you take care of others? I don't want to put myself and my family in other people's care. From now on, you are the most important in my heart.”
"Just figure it out." Cheng Yuanxi patted his thin shoulder with a smile on his face, "My son is smart and I am very happy to be a father."
The smile on Cheng Mingli's face became real and changed from the inside out.
"Okay, do you still have any questions?" Cheng Yuanxi asked with a smile.
Cheng Mingli shook his head and Mingyi chuckled, "Dad, you are so awesome. My brother has been struggling for two days. His cousin's words today made him resist and he wanted to ask you."
Cheng Yuanxi let go of his son's shoulders, stretched out his hand to rub the back of his daughter's head, "My family is always smart, and they noticed something was wrong with your brother."
It is a good thing that a daughter is more transparent than a son.
"Hey, brother values love and righteousness, and daughters are not as good as brothers." After seeing it too much, I feel that my character has become much weaker, not as cool as cold.
Cheng Yuanxi said, "What nonsense are you talking about? That's my son's fault. If you don't value friendship, will you value your parents and brother?"
"That's true." Cheng Mingli looked at his sister and said distressedly: "Dad is right, we can only take care of ourselves and our parents first. It is not wrong, but a sign of responsibility and responsibility. Dad, you are right. Bar?"
He didn't know that his sister was also thinking nonsense.
"Yes, they are all right." Cheng Yuanxi was filled with relief, "You are all very good. My parents are very happy to have you."
"Thank you, dad." Mingyi threw herself into Cheng Yuanxi's arms. Her father's arms were so warm.
There was a significant change in her mood, and she knew that her cultivation would improve again this time she returned.
Cheng Yuanxi smiled leisurely and said, "Thank you for nothing. You are all my father's children. I hope you will all be well."
"Yes." Mingyi nodded decisively.
Cheng Mingli hugged his sister tolerantly and let her lie on top of her father, "Dad, I want to continue enrolling in school after I settle down."
"Yes, dad will work hard to earn money for you to study."
The father and son were chatting and laughing, and Cheng Dazhu not far away looked at them with a smile. When Cheng Yuandong walked over, seeing how happy he was, he asked curiously.
"Dad, you are smiling so happily. Did something happy happen to you?"
"Of course I'm happy when I have children and grandchildren." Cheng Dazhu looked away, and the smile on his face faded a little, "You should pay more attention to Yueyue and persuade her as much as possible."
They didn't walk together today, but it didn't stop him from seeing Cheng Mingyue standing by and watching; her mother was digging wild vegetables for food, and she was doing nothing in the back, pulling the branches of wild plants.
As a result, Cheng Dazhu's impression of Cheng Mingyue dropped one point.
As a child, if your parents don't know how to share the burden when they are busy, and you can enjoy the fruits of your parents with peace of mind, you will most likely be an unfilial son if you continue.
