Of course Wen Ruyu understood what Tu Yalan meant and had no reason to refute, but she asked a little unwillingly: "Leader Tu, are you not optimistic about the sibling relationship between me and him?"
Tu Yalan shook his head and said: "Why don't you understand what I mean? The relationship between brother and sister is not a problem. Don't say that you are only six or seven years older than him. Even if you are more than 10 years older than him, it is not a problem.
The problem is that you should know where your strengths are and work hard to maintain those strengths.
Let me tell you this, if you were a housewife when you met him, there is nothing wrong with your current choice.
He came from the countryside, and after coming to the city, he saw many young girls, but why did he choose you in the end?
Don’t you think you are an intellectual woman?
In addition to your natural beauty, your elegant temperament and the connotation of an intellectual woman are something he has never seen before.
To put it bluntly, let's just talk about it. I believe he likes you and Jieping, all types of women, not the kind of housewives who walk around the streets every day and chatter.
Only by staying within the system and constantly rising to a higher position can you ensure that your image in his mind will not collapse.
Even as your position becomes higher and more stable, his love for you will slowly transform into a kind of silent awe and worship.
But now you have stripped off your bright feathers, and you have suddenly turned from a high-flying phoenix into a drowned black-bone chicken.
The so-called young couple comes to accompany them all the time.
As long as you live a harmonious life as a couple now, everything else won't be a problem, but what about after the 7-year itch.
Although you will not turn into a yellow-faced woman, there are many intellectual women like you running on the street, with extraordinary temperament.
Are you sure he won't fall in love with another woman just to find your current shadow? "
Wen Ruyu was speechless.
"Also," Tu Yalan continued: "A husband's role as a wife is actually the lowest level in the relationship between a man and a woman.
Especially for a woman, if you want your husband, or the man who likes you, to always maintain a reverent love for you, you must have the ability to help him.
Tell me, do you help him more as a boss lady, or do you help him more as a municipal leader? "
Wen Ruyu smiled bitterly and said: "Of course I understand this. The problem is that if I stay in the system, can't I marry him?"
Tu Yalan sighed: "Xiao Wen, don't blame me for speaking too harshly. You have never been married. Don't you understand that the foundation and guarantee of the relationship between men and women is not just a marriage certificate?
You and Jia Dalong were once legally married. Were you happy?
It can be said that Gao Yide and Jieping are both talented and beautiful, right? You and Jieping are best friends, so you should know whether her marriage is happy or not. "
Wen Ruyu blinked and looked at Tu Yalan: "What Leader Tu means-"
Tu Yalan said: "What I mean is, if it is true love, you don't have to care about whether you are married to him or not.
If you lose the biggest opportunity in your life for the sake of marriage, you will definitely regret it in the future.
What is not available is beautiful!
The biggest regret in life is to give up another, more beautiful thing in order to obtain one beautiful thing! "
Wen Ruyu lowered her head, pondered for a while, then raised her head and said, "Leader Tu, I understand what you said. The problem is not only marriage, I also hope to be a mother.
And I hope that the children in the future will be mine and Erhu’s, not other men’s.
To tell you the truth, I only have Erhu in my heart right now, and no man can take his place. "
Tu Yalan smiled and said: "If this is your only concern, then you are overthinking it. You and Jia Erhu may not be married, but this does not mean that you cannot have children!"
Wen Ruyu looked at Tu Yalan with wide eyes.
Tu Yalan explained: "Sit where you can first. Giving birth will only take a few months, and there will always be a way to deal with it when the time comes.
You can then say that the child belongs to someone else and was just adopted by you. "
Wen Ruyu looked at Tu Yalan in surprise: "If I really become a city-level leader, can I hide from everyone for several months and complete the delivery of the child?"
Tu Yalan smiled and said: "When you reach the municipal leadership level, you cannot stay in one place forever. No matter how good or bad your work is, I'm afraid you will be moved frequently.
In the process of moving, you can pretend to be upset, and even at a certain period of time, it is normal for you to sit at home and wait for several months before returning to work.
Of course, if you feel that you really can't escape, even if you resign at that time, it will be better than now.
As a city-level leader, you give up everything for Jia Erhu's children. Far more than if you give up everything for him now, he will be more grateful and will never let you down for the rest of his life.
To use the simplest analogy, isn't it normal for an ordinary woman to give up her ordinary job in order to have children?
If a female leader at the municipal level gave up everything in order to have children, that would be such an earth-shattering thing!
If that day comes, I believe Jia Erhu won’t even know what he should do to repay you. Do you still need to worry that he will change his mind? "
Wen Ruyu finally understood, and she said with gratitude: "Thank you, Leader Tu, your words were like an enlightenment and enlightened me.
I will tell Erhu after a while that I will leave for Sijiu City the day after tomorrow. "
Tu Yalan nodded and said: "Remember, you can give up everything for a man, even your life, but you must never give up your career.
Because if any woman wants to live a glorious life in this world, she can neither rely on her parents, her husband, nor her children.
The only thing you can rely on is your own career.
Take me for example, if I keep relying on Dongfang’s leader, he will quit. I am more than 10 years younger than him. What should I do now?
You know, at first he didn’t want me to stay in the system, but wanted me to go abroad with my children, but I refused.
So even if he retires, not only will it not have any impact on my life, it will even help my career.
This time the leader talked to him and the condition for him to step down was to upgrade mine by half a level. If I had not stayed in the system, even if my family were living abroad, I would have become an old woman that everyone despises. "
Wen Ruyu smiled and said, "It's not like..."
Tu Yalan said sternly: "Quite! Now only work can keep me full of energy every day.
I believe you can imagine what I would be like if I were shopping for food, cooking, doing housework, and even taking care of my grandchildren every day at home.
And the way you imagine me is what I will look like after you give up this opportunity! "
Wen Ruyu stood up and bowed to Tu Yalan: "Thank you, Leader Tu, for your teaching. Your words today are really enough to change my whole life."
