Many years later, Xiaodang talked about the feelings and far-reaching impact this incident brought to him in an interview.
"The feudal ideology that favors boys over girls fundamentally denies the value of women's existence. The sensitivity, suspicion, inferiority, selfishness, panic, and fear that characterized my childhood personality were actually all derived from these four words. . They converged into streams, forming a disgusting and twisted monster, entrenched in my heart. I know that it has always existed, absorbing my flesh and blood, and growing with me."
"It is because of this monster that I have always been filled with insecurities. I always felt that I was useless and that I would be bored and abandoned one day. In fact, now that I think about it, when I was a child, I wanted to be with my father so much. , asking for his love almost greedily, taking the trouble to confirm whether he loves me over and over again, it’s all this monster that is at work.”
"I'm afraid of losing, and I pessimistically believe that I will lose everything sooner or later. So when my mother chose to leave me in order to pursue her happiness and future, I was not surprised at all. Instead, I felt as if the boots had landed."
"But my mother's death still turned my sensitive and fragile heart into glass. No matter who touched it, it would shatter into pieces. I tried my best to show my value and my role. I was afraid that my father wouldn't be able to see this. I was afraid that If he thinks I am useless, he will throw me away like my mother."
"I was very hostile to the nanny I hired. I felt that she came here just to replace me. The more capable she was, the more useless I felt. I was filled with fear at that time. I tried my best to learn how to do it from that nanny. Taking care of the children and serving the confinement child, I want to use this method to tell my father that I can do anything. I even want to cry and beg him to let the nanny go..."
"Looking back now, my thoughts at that time were actually very ridiculous. Those sensitive little emotions of girls cannot be understood or guessed by others. Assuming that my father did not come when the nanny accused me, I dare For sure, that monster will burst out of my heart completely. I dare not imagine what will happen. That monster will control me and use all vicious ways to hurt me and the people I love..."
"In anyone's eyes, being snarled by a nanny is not a big deal, but once that out-of-control monster rushes out, I will become a little lunatic. My hysterical sharpness will make no distinction between friend and foe. The attacks will make people think that I am unreasonable, ridiculous and hateful, and then everyone will feel that it is me who is wrong and that I should be severely punished for this."
"But none of this happened because dad stood up. It was really amazing. When I think about his appearance and his subsequent reaction, I still find it incredible."
"Based on the father I know, I thought he would criticize the nanny for at least a few words, ask her to apologize to me, and then just deal with the little conflict lightly. But he didn't do that. The father who is always tolerant turned out to be uncharacteristically , made a very violent reaction, and he directly drove away the nanny. You must know that the nanny was carefully selected and transferred from the old work station by Grandma Wen and her father had always respected Grandma Wen. I didn’t say even a word of no to her..."
"I still clearly remember the scene at that time. I panicked at first and told my father to forget it. I felt that I had caused trouble to my father. I was afraid that Grandma Wen would hate me because of this incident, but my father said...he That’s what I said—no one can let my daughter suffer!”
"Wow, all the grievances, pains and depressions I felt at that time burst out all at once because of this sentence! This sentence was like a spell, suffocating the monster with a sword. Maybe even Dad himself didn't know it , it was this sentence that healed me for the rest of my life. All my anxieties, fears, and insecurities were shattered by his words."
"I remember howling and crying uncontrollably. I called daddy over and over again. I hugged him and couldn't stop crying."
"Everyone was shocked by me. Huaihua supported Wenhui's mother and came down from the stairs. Later, Grandpa Wen and Grandma Wen came over from next door. I still couldn't stop crying. Later, Huaihua also cried with me, The two of us hugged dad and kept crying..."
"Every time I think about this, I am very grateful to my parents and grandparents. I feel how lucky I am to have met this person.
Such a tolerant family? They didn’t have any dissatisfaction or complaints because of the inexplicable emotions between Huaihua and I. Everyone tolerated us, and Grandma Wen even wanted to apologize to me..."
"It was because of this incident that Huaihua and I completely integrated into this family. Later, Huaihua and I changed our surnames. It was actually Huaihua who suggested it, because that incident also shocked her greatly. I can feel it. How envious she was of me and how eager she was to be like me."
"Nowadays, when many reporters interview Huaihua and I, they ask us what we think is the greatest thing about our parents. I know the answer they want is the great achievements my father has made and the contribution my mother has made to the countryside throughout her life. The great wisdom they contributed to reform, but as their daughters, when it comes to greatness, this is the first thing that Huaihua and I think of. For us, the greatest thing about them has never been how many great things they have done. , but they made two originally humble and insignificant lives shine with incomparable beauty."
"Ms. Su Xiaodang, so in your mind, your adoptive father and mother are extremely noble and perfect?" the host asked with a smile.
Xiaodang shook his head and said helplessly: "Of course not, in fact they are lazy."
"Lazy?" The host was very surprised. "No one has ever commented on them like this! Can you tell us why you say they are lazy?"
As a child, a warm smile appeared on the corner of her mouth involuntarily, and she fell into reminiscing...
One afternoon in the summer of 1976, Su Qingqian was more than two years old. His father was not yet the "Father of China's Internet" today. He had just become the "Steel King."
At the dinner table, Dad and Wen Hui's mother once again had a heated debate about work.
Of course it was because of Wenhui's mother's difficulties at work. Everyone knew that her father seemed to be omnipotent in his work.
As a child, Dang remembers very clearly that Wenhui’s mother wanted to implement a relatively radical peasant policy at that time. That policy still benefits farmers across the country today, but it is unimaginable that her father was opposed to it at the time.
"Wen Hui, it's not that I don't support what you do, but you are too radical. Normally, your idea will not be realized in thirty years. You are too impatient!"
"Thirty years? That's too long! Our first generation of farmers have suffered for most of their lives since the founding of the People's Republic of China. They are all old now and suffering from ailments. Who can wait thirty years? Policies implemented after thirty years will have no impact on What’s the point for them now? I just want them to enjoy such good policies while they are alive, and let them know that the country cares about them and has never forgotten their risks and sacrifices.”
"I know your intentions are good, but they are unrealistic."
"What is unrealistic? Economically unrealistic? Or is it unrealistic based on national conditions?"
"It's all unrealistic!" Su Yi said calmly, "Economically speaking, we have nothing to do, and this is our main source of income. In terms of national conditions, everyone is calling for the economy to come first. Where does the money come from?"
"But time waits for me, Yuan Korea. I have always trusted your strategic vision. I am so anxious because of some predictions you made about the current situation." Wen Hui sighed and said, "You said "Our generation, which has experienced the activities of going to the countryside and is educated and thoughtful, is in a high position. It is the most pragmatic generation of leaders in the past century. We have all suffered at the grassroots level and know what the people lack, want, and want."
"You commented that our generation of leaders is the "most down-to-earth". I think this word is very appropriate. Our fathers are great, but their eyes are looking upward and outward, unlike us, who lower their heads and look at the land. But society is changing, times are developing, and people are changing. Some people have changed and have begun to forget the hard days of the past and the poor folks of the past. "
"The roads in the city are getting wider and wider, there are more and more buildings, and the food and drink are getting better and better. Everyone thinks that everything is fine. But what about the folks in the village? We can pretend not to see it. Are you here?"
"Everyone has affection for the villagers now. I think the resistance now is the smallest. If we wait until the city gets better and better in the future, many people who enjoy the dividends will come to our position and will represent us. Will the farmers speak for themselves? It would be even more impossible to push this matter forward at that time.
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"Wen Hui, I think you underestimate the courage and structure of our organization." Su Yi said, "You have to believe that each generation has its own mission..."
Thirty years later, this thing really happened, and more than two thousand years of history was rewritten, which shows the courage and courage.
"But in aiding Korea, we can't leave the hard bones for future generations to chew. This is irresponsible!" Wen Hui said, "And I don't think this should be done thirty years later. I want to give it a try."
Su Yi sighed and said: "The resistance will be really great!"
"Dad, Wen Hui, Mom, why don't you eat first?" Xiao Dang sat across from him and listened for a long time, chewing his fast food. "The food is almost cold."
"Eat, eat." Su Yi smiled, "Let's discuss this matter after dinner."
Wen Hui rubbed her forehead and sighed: "I have too many headaches, some of which I can't eat."
"Recently, the Ministry of Culture introduced the first Hong Kong film, would you like..."
"Ahem, where do you have time? I have to go to work overtime after dinner." Wen Hui winked at Su Yi, "I don't have time to wash the bowls. Yuan Korea, will you do it?"
"Me? Neither can I. I still have a chance." Su Yi also blinked.
After being married for many years, the two now have a perfect understanding. As soon as Wen Hui blinked, Su Yi immediately understood what she meant.
"Then what should we do?" Wen Hui frowned deliberately and looked at Xiaodang.
Su Yi also looked at Xiaodang.
Xiao Dang was picking up vegetables, and his movements suddenly froze. He looked at this and that with innocent eyes, and couldn't help but sigh: "Okay, okay, I can wash the bowls, but what about Qianqian? She wakes up and wants to eat Breast milk. Grandma and grandpa went to Uncle Shengli's house. Isn't Aunt An Ping pregnant? She is too naughty. I can't feed her milk by myself."
"Why are the Sophora japonica gone?" Su Yi asked Wen Hui.
"I said I went to hang out with my classmates, the girl from Director Li's family at the east end of our courtyard..." Wen Hui said.
"Oh." Su Yi suddenly realized, "That's not far away."
Xiao Dang said quietly: "One of you doesn't want to wash the dishes, and the other doesn't want to be a baby. You are both parents. You still want to play and go to the movies every day. Do you think it's appropriate?"
"Look at Su Yuanchao, I just said that Xiaodang is smart and smart, so you can't hide it from her, right?" Wen Hui immediately said to Su Yi seriously, "You shouldn't do this."
"I'm just cooperating with you..." Su Yi's eyes widened with absurdity on his face, but when Wen Hui glared, he immediately raised his hand, "Okay, okay, you are right and I am wrong."
No matter how reasonable a woman is, she also likes to be unreasonable to her lover.
"You always use the excuse of two people to be lazy and never take me to play with you." Xiao Dang pouted.
"Xiao Dang, you can't say that. Just say, when Qian Qian was one year old, did your mother Wen Hui and I take you to play in the south for a week before coming back? So as long as conditions permit, we will still take you with us. "Yes." Su Yi said with a smile, "Be good, and when grandma and grandpa come back in the afternoon, you can find an excuse to sneak out. Today, your uncle Zhuzi is celebrating his third son's 100th day. Let's go to his new restaurant and have a good time." pause."
"Really?" Xiaodang immediately became excited, "Then we agreed, no regrets?"
"It's a deal!"
Snapped! Snapped!
Xiaodang, Wenhui and Su Yi high-fived each other one after another.
Xiao Dang remembers that what Wen Hui's mother mentioned that day was finally achieved with the help of his father in 1982. With the whole country rejoicing, Wen Hui's mother hugged her father and cried heartily.
Qian Qian combines the genes of her father and Wen Hui's mother, and is very cute and smart.
Like Xiao Dang, she is very attached to her father. She runs around behind him every day, happy and carefree, which is really enviable...
When Qian Qian was five years old, Wen Hui's mother gave birth to another little brother. This time, he was named Su Xiuyan by Grandpa Wen.
Xiao Xuanyan likes Sophora japonica very much, and the two sisters have had a good relationship since childhood. The three sisters all regard him as a treasure and love him very much. However, his father is very strict with him. Sometimes Xiao Dang feels that his father is very strict with Xuan Yan.
A little harsh.
In the year of the Olympics, my father also gave up all his work, handed over the "country" he had worked so hard to build to Xuan Yan, who he had personally taught, and then went sightseeing with Wen Hui's mother.
As children, everyone was very worried about the safety and health of the two old people, but soon they found that there was no need to worry too much.
The old couple were very strong and had a lot of fun going to the mountains and going to the sea.
later……
Later, everyone got old, but mom and dad were still alive and well.
Many people ask their parents for the secret of longevity. Whenever this happens, their father tells them seriously: "Attitude, mentality is the most important thing..."
Whenever this happens, Xiaodang can't help but look at Wenhui's mother.
Wenhui's mother looked at her father talking endlessly with a smile on her face, which made Xiaodang feel infinite strength and emotion every time.
She really wanted to write a book for her parents, but the story of their lives was so long and exciting.
And their story hasn’t come to the end yet...
