In this regard, Tan looked disapproving.
"I just gave birth to a little girl. What's so strange about it? Is it possible that we still have to beat gongs and drums?" she asked.
"Besides, given the virtues of the Yu family, one is more ignorant than the other. What kind of gift should I give? Give something light and give something heavy. Do the three Yu Jinbao brothers and sisters know what they are doing?"
"That's a coward in the family. If you ask me, it's Liu's own business if she wants to run away. Who makes her the mother of He girl? We people don't need to run around. It's a waste of time. !”
After saying this, Tan continued to fight with the rice noodle cake in his hand.
But Lao Yangtou was blocked by these words and couldn't come back to his senses for a long time.
The other people on the table didn't speak, and they all lowered their heads to eat. The atmosphere at the table was a little awkward.
However, there was someone who dared to break this embarrassment. Yes, that person was Yang Huamei.
"I agree with what my mother said." Yang Huamei said.
"Our old Yang family is splitting up. If I remember correctly, we talked about it when we split up."
"In the future, it is necessary for the girls in each room to move with their parents' families, just like Qing'er and my third brother and sister-in-law, Lan Yatou will follow Bai Xiaozi, and Eight Sisters will follow the Sun family."
"As for the interactions between other elders and relatives outside of this, it depends on each person's personal relationship."
"So, sending gifts to He'er's children for the Nine Dynasties and so on is mainly what the fourth room has to do."
"With people like us, there's nothing to worry about. If someone has a better relationship with He'er and Yu Jinbao, go there in private."
"Anyway, as a married aunt, I don't need to give gifts to the children of the He'er family." She said.
Then, his eyes fell on Yang Ruoqing and Yang Ruolan: "You two are also married. You are in the same situation as me. Do you two go?"
Yang Ruolan smiled awkwardly and turned her gaze to Yang Ruoqing: "I don't have any opinion. I'll just follow Qing'er. I'll do whatever Qing'er does."
Yang Ruoqing also turned her head to look at Yang Ruolan and couldn't help but roll her eyes, "Sister Lan'er, you are such a good pusher."
Yang Ruolan stuck out her tongue in embarrassment and made a flattering smile.
Yang Ruoqing expressed her helplessness.
Here, Old Yangtou’s questioning voices came one after another.
"Qing'er, what do you think about this?" the old man asked.
"If you think everyone should give this gift, then we will give it to you. If you think it doesn't matter whether you give it or not, then we won't give it to you at all. We all take the same steps, how about that?" Old Yangtou continued. , this tone is full of discussion.
Yang Ruoqing was slightly surprised and glanced at Old Yang.
For things like this, in the past, when my sister-in-law Yang Huamei made that discordant sound of "don't send it off", Old Yangtou would scold her immediately.
But this time, Lao Yangtou did not show that he could not disobey the patriarchal system. Instead, he became tolerant and patiently asked for his opinions.
Yang Ruoqing felt that this should be the last time the Yang family recognized their relatives in Yuncheng, which had a huge impact on Old Yangtou.
At that time, everyone said that you should be careful when recognizing your relatives, but Old Yangtou insisted on his own way and worked hard to recognize his ancestors.
He took the whole family all the way to Yuncheng, but in the end, he was treated like a monkey and almost lost his family fortune.
Recognizing relatives has become a big joke in villages all over the country. I heard that Old Yangtou was ill for several days after he came back.
It took Yang Ruoqing more than a month to clean up that mess.
So now, Old Yangtou has changed a bit and knows how to patiently ask for opinions from everyone else, especially Yang Ruoqing.
"Master, since you are asking for this reason and all the big guys are here today, then I will tell the truth about my own feelings." Yang Ruoqing said.
"As my sister-in-law said before, for us married daughters and future cousins, this rule was put on the table when the family was separated. I won't go into it here."
"What I want to say is that I agree with my sister-in-law. When it comes to serious gift-giving between relatives, we only give it to our own parents and grandparents."
"I, a few uncles, and my cousin also travel among themselves."
"But this kind of movement is not the kind of movement that must occur between relatives according to the rules. It is purely due to our own personal relationship."
"If nothing else, let's take Sister Lan'er and cousin He'er as examples."
"When Sister Lan'er gets married or gives birth to a child, I give her gifts."
"That's because we have a good relationship with Brother Ahao, so we moved around in private."
"Similarly, when my baby turns one year old or there are other happy events in my family, Sister Lan'er will also walk around with me, but what about He'er?"
"Don't say that she doesn't interact with us cousins. Since she married into Lao Yu's family, she has stopped interacting with these uncles and uncles from her mother's family."
"My parents, uncles and aunts all went there when she got married as a gift to her uncle. After that, they never went there again," she said.
At the table, Yang Yongxian could not help but talk because he never talked behind someone's back and never made trouble.
"Speaking of He'er, I also want to say a few words." He said.
"I went to Yujia Village for a home visit, and I met my brother-in-law Yu Jinbao face to face on the way. I took the initiative to say hello to Yu Jinbao, but he didn't even look at me. He passed me by and wasn't even considered a passerby. It really shocked me. I can't even figure out if I offended him in some way? Are you trying to make me look cold like this?" he said.
"What? Is there such a thing?"
Lao Yangtou was surprised for a moment, and there was a hint of dissatisfaction in his eyes.
Yang Huamei said: "What is this? That time Dabai was frightened, so my mother-in-law and I carried Dabai to the goddess to ask for rice."
"When I came back, I took a shortcut through Yujia Village. At the entrance of He'er's yard, I happened to see He'er standing in the yard eating melon seeds."
"My mother-in-law said hello to her across the courtyard wall without even twitching her lips, let alone inviting me to come in for tea. She turned around and went back to the house."
Speaking of this, Yang Huamei couldn't help but feel angry.
"As for this matter, if it were someone else, someone from my mother's door would come over. Not to mention greeting her with food, it would be human nature to call her in for a cup of tea, right?"
"We are not just from my mother's family. I am her biological aunt. What about her? Pretending not to know each other is really outrageous!"
"After that incident, I told my mother-in-law that I won't have any contact with He'er from now on. The gift that He'er received when he was married to a follower of our old Wang family was just like feeding a dog!" Yang Huamei road.
Hearing that Yang Huamei had suffered such grievances, Mrs. Tan didn't want to eat rice noodles anymore.
"I don't believe that He'er is really ignorant. When Qing'er was as old as she was, she had to support the whole family. She was the one who made the final decision in all human relations." said Tan.
"This He'er, you should know that she hurts the dog named Feifei to the core. She knows everything, but she is not willing to use it on relatives like us."
"Let me tell you, except for the fourth house, none of our families are allowed to go to Yujiacun to take a look. If she wants to abandon our family, we don't have to pay attention to her,"
Tan waved his hand, "These are my exact words, no one is allowed to give gifts!"
