In the last time, we watched her, stayed with her, and said many things.
My aunt didn't have the strength to respond, so she just listened. Although her face became increasingly ugly and gray, she always had a satisfied smile.
The uncle shed tears and put on the clothes he had prepared for his aunt.
There is a saying that one must put on the shroud before dying. The shroud is also called dressing up in old clothes.
Because you can only wear it when you are alive and take it to the underworld. If you wear it after death, you will not be able to take it with you. You will probably have no clothes when you go there.
At about one o'clock in the morning, she suddenly came back to her senses and told us to live a good life and work hard to make progress.
She looked at us at last, as if she wanted to say something, but she could not speak a thousand words, and two lines of tears fell from her eyes.
She held my and my sister's hands, smiled lightly, and then slowly fell asleep.
Surprisingly, none of us cried loudly, we just choked in low voices and shed tears silently.
I heard that after death, the last thing to disappear is hearing, so I suppressed my sadness and told my aunt that I would live a good life, work hard, take good care of my sister, and not let her down.
Auntie seemed to have really heard what I said. The smile on her face slowly spread, and the hands that held ours slowly loosened.
She seemed to have let go of all her worries and left with peace of mind.
Because it had been prepared, my aunt's funeral was not rushed. According to the family's custom, it was only parked at home for one day, and then the funeral was carried out and buried.
The funeral was actually very simple. There was no cremation in the countryside and it didn't cost much. My aunt was used to being simple during her lifetime. She would definitely be unhappy if we were extravagant and wasteful after she left.
Besides, everyone is gone, so who can show them so much?
If you are not filial when you are alive, no matter how glorious you are when you are dead, it will only be seen by others.
But it is enough to have a clear conscience.
I stayed at home for another seven days because I had to wait for my head to burn for seven days. Then I withdrew 50,000 yuan from my bank card and gave it to my uncle.
My aunt is gone, but my sister is still young and needs to be raised by my uncle.
However, he is only my sister's stepfather, so I took out this money to express my feelings. I didn't want him to think that his aunt was gone and he still had to raise a daughter for her.
My uncle refused to accept anything, so I had to tell him that the money could be saved and used by my sister in the future, and he agreed.
In fact, there is a saying in the rural areas of Northeast China that people cannot die on the bed at home and must prepare a bed for parking the body in advance. Most of them use door panels instead, commonly known as paizi, or dead person's paizi.
Then the dying person must be carried up, put on old clothes, and then wait to die.
When Uncle Ma and I helped Wang Ye handle things, it was because his old man died in bed.
But when my aunt left, I ignored these remarks.
I feel that nothing is absolute. When my aunt passed away, the people she cared about most were all around her, and she always had a smile on her face.
The dead have no unfulfilled wishes, and the living have no regrets, so there is no need to be too taboo.
My aunt has been lonely all her life, and I don’t want her to lie on the cold door when she passes away.
On the first seven days, I bought a complete set of furniture and appliances, as well as a house and a car at the shroud shop, and burned them to my aunt.
The shop owner also recommended that I buy a boy and a girl, but I felt that my aunt had lived a simple life and she would definitely not let others serve her, so it was useless.
There is an important point here, that is, when giving these things, you must wait until the first seven days before burning them.
Because when a person dies, there are still a few days to go through the process. At this time, you cannot collect anything you burn, so you can only bring some money and belongings.
For example, in the past, you had to bring a dog-beating stick and dog-beating sticks, which were said to be used when entering the Evil Dog Ridge of Underworld.
But now that cremation is being carried out in cities, all these things are dispensed with.
From the time of my aunt's death to the time I burned my head, everything was normal and nothing weird happened.
So you see, my aunt also walked on the bed, but nothing happened.
There are some folk rules that must be followed, but there is no need to be too rigid. As long as the children and younger generations have a pure heart of filial piety and the old man passes away peacefully, there will basically be no problems.
The night before returning to Harbin, that is, the night of the first seven days, I dreamed of my aunt.
In the dream, she was the same as before, wearing very clean clothes, looking at me with a smile, telling me not to be sad, saying everything was fine with her over there.
She also took me to see her current residence, which is a two-story house with everything in it, including furniture, appliances, and even a car.
I was very happy because I burned those things for her.
My aunt didn't live in the building when she was alive, but she did live in it after her death.
I even saw someone at my aunt's new home, which was a surprise and surprise.
It's my dad, and he actually came to visit me.
He happily chatted with his aunt, feeling just like when he was alive, there was no difference.
I asked my dad, where was my mom?
He said that your mother had not reached her birthday, but when she went to the Yinsi family for an investigation, she was told that she had been arrested in error, but she could not be sent back, so she was asked to be reincarnated in advance.
When I heard it turned out to be the case, no wonder my mother was not on the list.
I asked again, where was my mother reincarnated? Can I go see her?
My dad shook his head and said, who knows? These are all secrets. If you want to know, you have to ask the Lord of Hell.
I asked him about Tangkou again, and he said he didn't know much about it and asked me to go to Harbin to ask the master.
Finally, he pointed to his clothes and said, "Please go back and send me some sets of clothes. My pants are all torn."
When I saw it, my dad actually had two holes in his pants.
Of course I agreed wholeheartedly, and then he went to chat with his aunt with a smile. I guess they haven't seen each other in these years, so they probably have endless things to talk about.
Then, I woke up.
Thinking back to the scene in the dream, I couldn't help but smile.
I suddenly felt that in fact, I had been afraid of this day coming, but when I really faced the world of death, it seemed not so scary anymore.
They just changed their lives in another place.
Thinking of this, my heart suddenly became enlightened and I was no longer confused and confused.
After a while, I left here and got on the train back to Harbin.
When I dragged my suitcase back to Uncle Ma's place, it was just past three in the afternoon, the sun was neither arrogant nor impetuous, and there was a chill in the air.
In fact, it is also midsummer at this time, but Harbin’s summer is completely different from Nanjing’s summer, and it is simply a holy place to escape the summer heat.
Returning at this time is just right.
