Su Wan was really speechless.
In fact, most of these things are caused by women.
Men certainly value their heirs, but as long as one or two can inherit the incense, most of them think it's okay. It doesn't necessarily have to be seven or eight to be satisfied. However, women don't think so.
Perhaps it is due to the dominance of this patriarchal society that women are taught to be virtuous and generous people from birth. Some people even think that it is natural for men to take concubines and sleep with each other, and some even take concubines for their husbands themselves.
There are also some people who suffered the hardships of concubines when they were young, and they also resented concubines and concubines in their hearts. However, when the years gradually passed and they reached the age of grandmothers, their feelings for men had long since faded. Go, there is no water or waves in my heart, I just feel that it is just a little thing.
At this time, I was thinking about the wealth that would come from having more children and grandchildren, and I wanted my children and grandchildren to flourish.
What's more, I feel that I have suffered like this, why can my daughter-in-law monopolize her husband, so I feel unhappy and want to cause trouble.
It is precisely because of these reasons that the next generation repeats the fate of the previous generation, and concubinage becomes the norm among powerful families.
Even if there are some couples who have a good relationship and are unwilling to take a concubine, the elders will force her to do so. If you don't agree, she will cry, make trouble, and hang herself. The fuss is endless. Even if you plan to take a concubine openly, it will not work. You must To sleep, you must have a baby.
If you don't give birth, the old lady said that she would not rest in peace even if she died. You would be unfilial by doing this, and you would be sorry for your old mother and your ancestors.
Then they kept making noises all day long, making the chickens and dogs restless.
For example, King Zhao married Zhou's concubine in the past, and Duke Zhen married Yue's mother, which was caused by the elders.
Comparatively speaking, in the hearts of many people, the biological mother is still more important. She is looking for death and survival, so she can only bite the bullet and agree, so the concubine entered the house and the child was born.
In short, these old ladies are really capable of causing trouble, and she is still an elder. She cannot be beaten or scolded, and the weaker ones cannot resist.
Su Wan felt her head was buzzing and her heart was very upset. She took a deep breath and calmed down. She asked, "Grandma, do you think it is right to take a concubine?"
Su Wan felt that she could not change an era or change everyone, but she hoped that her natal family could be more peaceful, with kind elders, filial children and grandchildren, and a harmonious and happy family.
She hoped that Su Jian and Murong Xian, and even Su Xian in the future, could live a good life after getting married instead of struggling among the wives and concubines in the back house.
Wang paused and then asked her: "What do you mean by this?"
"A Wan just feels a little emotional." Su Wan sighed, "There are so many wives and concubines in this house, and life is never quiet. Either the wives and concubines are fighting with each other, or the brothers are fighting for the favor of their husbands and the inheritance of the family."
"Everyone says that it is better to have more children and grandchildren, but I always feel that it is better to raise a group of children and grandchildren who only know how to fight among themselves than to raise one or two promising ones. This requires more effort and training, and they will become more talented in the future. It’s good to raise a bunch of people who only know how to eat at home.”
"It's a quiet day like this."
Mrs. Wang felt strange: "Awan, do you think it's wrong to have a concubine?"
Su Wan laughed: "I don't care whether this is right or not, but for a woman, taking a concubine is really a sad and sad thing. She is unwilling to do so in her heart, but due to various reasons, she can only endure it. Go down."
"In the past, one of the reasons why I was willing to marry Jing Yuan was because he said that the Li family's ancestral teachings were against taking concubines. If he married me, I would be the only one in my life."
"Who doesn't want to have two people in this life?"
But no, who doesn't want to be with her husband for the rest of her life? If possible, who would be willing to serve the same husband with another woman and let other women give birth to children with the husband's blood.
Unless he really has no emotion at all, otherwise, who can be so virtuous and generous that he doesn't care at all.
"No, who wouldn't want to?" Wang sighed.
Su Wan smiled: "The ancestors of the Li family are quite powerful. Jing Yuan told me before that the ancestors of the Li family do not allow their descendants to take concubines. This will ensure a stable husband and wife throughout their lives, a peaceful back home, and the ability to care for their children." When it comes to work, secondly, when it comes to children and grandchildren, the more children you have, the better.”
"In this family, there is only so much family property. Whoever has more and who has less has to fight for it. Wives, concubines, descendants, and everyone in the world are all trying to get more for themselves. "
"According to me, there are so many children in this world, it is better to have one or two children and educate them well so that they can become talents. It is best to be born to a mother. The relationship will naturally be deeper. When the time comes, you can use it in one place. Why worry about the future? good."
"For example, in our Jinning Palace, my eldest uncle and my father are of the same mind at the moment, but there is a second uncle. How can the second uncle be of the same mind as my eldest uncle and my father? That's why my eldest uncle and I are of the same mind. Unlucky father.”
"Grandma thinks, is it better to have children and grandchildren like my second uncle or not?"
Of course it’s not good!
Mrs. Wang was almost annoyed to death by Su Lin. She was not the one who gave birth to her. She also seemed to have a brain disease. She desperately wanted to go up. She was stupid and brainless. She couldn't stand him all of a sudden. That would drag down the entire mansion and drag the whole family to death.
Su Wan smiled: "How can such a legitimate son and a concubine be of the same mind? They are separated by a mother. The richer the family, the more internal strife they have. I don't know how many families have collapsed or gradually collapsed due to internal strife. The ground did not fall.”
"Grandma has been asking me before when we will have a child with Jing Yuan so that you can hold your great-grandson in your arms, but I said it was not urgent, and it is indeed not urgent. Jing Yuan and I have already discussed it."
"Jingyuan said, if you give birth to a boy, then give birth to a boy and cultivate him well. If the first one gives birth to a girl, then give birth to the second one. This world is too harsh on women. If both parents are gone, , then instead of being bullied to death, it would be good to have a younger brother or younger sister to support her."
"If the second child is born and it's still a girl, that's enough. If you really want an heir to inherit the family, just find someone who has no father and no mother to raise him under your knees."
Wang was stunned for a while after hearing this: "Jing Yuan actually said that?"
"Of course." Su Wan thought to himself, if he didn't have a throne in his family to inherit, he would probably think it was enough to have a girl, and that man likes girls.
But this world is really harsh on women. They just let her stand up on her own. If she doesn't do well in the future, they will use the fact that she is a woman to criticize her and criticize her.
You have worked hard all your life, but people don't appreciate your kindness and call you a jerk.
In this case, it is better for her to be happy and be an innocent little girl, with her parents protecting her all her life. Even if her parents are gone, she still has brothers, who dares to bully her.
