On the day of the ceremony, the Xiao family did not make any effort. All the people who came were relatives of the Xiao family and some teachers who were related to Xiao Rui. The emperor and his wife were also present as father-in-law and mother-in-law. In addition, Li Jing and his wife brought their families to witness the event. Xiangcheng, Li Shengnan's two fiancées and others, all visitors must wear formal clothes.
The process of the crowning ceremony, according to the Book of Rites, is that the father crowns his son, then his mentor gives him a cousin, and finally he entertains guests and friends.
There are two teachers that Xiao Rui really kowtows to. One is the miracle doctor Sun Simiao, and the other is the great scholar Li Gang who teaches the princes in Hongwen Hall. Now Divine Doctor Sun travels all over the world practicing medicine to save people, but time is short to find him, so only the great scholar Li Gang is present.
The other two witnesses are Wei Zheng and Qin Shubao. They are both civil and military, and they are Xiao Rui's official leaders who are both teachers and friends. The host of the crown ceremony was Wei Zheng.
In the Xiao family ancestral hall, Xiao Yu stood in the middle, worshiped the ancestral tablet, turned around and said loudly: "The dog in our family is eighteen years old. Choose an auspicious day, invite guests, play the harp and sheng as a crowning ceremony. .”
He took a silk cloth crown from the maid's hand and put it on Xiao Rui himself.
Wei Zheng said loudly: "Shijia: On the auspicious day of the month, Shijia Yuanfu, abandon the word "Your", and follow "Er" to become a virtue. Shou Kao Weiqi, Jieer Jingfu."
The main message of the message is: On this beautiful and auspicious day, I will give you adult clothes; please give up your childhood interests and develop adult sentiments. It shows that you have grown up, have all the responsibilities and rights that an adult should have, and can manage people.
He took off the cloth crown, took a leather bow, and put it on again. (A kind of leather hat, made of deerskin and decorated with pearls and gems between the leather gaps, called Pi Bian)
Wei Zheng said loudly: "In addition: the auspicious month is the day of the month, which is to show your obedience, respect your majesty, and be careful and virtuous. The eyebrows will live for thousands of years, and they will be blessed forever."
The main message of the message is: On this beautiful and auspicious day, I will give you the clothes of an adult, maintain your dignity, cultivate your virtues, may you have long blessings and endless life. Another meaning of Pi Bian is that from now on, you can perform military service.
He took off the leather bean, took a jue bean and put it on his son. (Similar to Pi Bian, it is named Jue Bian after Jue Wei. Jue Tong means "bird", and Jue Wei should be the red and black bird feathers. So Jue Bian is a hat made of bird feathers.)
Wei Zheng said loudly: "Three additions: the year is right, the month is the order. Xianjia is convinced. Brothers are here to achieve great virtue. Huang Lao has no boundaries and is celebrated by heaven."
The main message of the congratulation is: In the name of time, I will give you adult clothes. May you be brothers and sisters, achieve good moral character, be protected by heaven, and live a long life without borders. Jue Ben means that from now on, he is qualified to participate in sacrifices.
After the crowning is completed, it is the time when the teacher bestows the title.
Xiao Yu walked aside and asked old Li Gang to come to the center. This great Confucian has a tall and strong figure, and although his steps are slow, his temperament is extraordinary. He stretched out his hand and pressed his head lovingly on Xiao Rui's head, and said loudly: "Xiao Rui, today you are an adult. My father named you Rui, which means forging ahead and being invincible! But if you make a sharp one, it cannot last long, and it is easy to break if it is strong. The Doctrine of the Mean is the way. Therefore, today I will give you the nickname 'Zang Feng'. I hope you will remember the way of survival and death, hold yourself upright, love your country and your family, and your life will be smooth from now on!"
Xiao Rui kowtows and salutes: "Xiao Rui, Xiao Zangfeng, I would like to thank my teacher for the gift of words. Students must remember the teacher's teachings."
Wei Zheng said loudly: "The ceremony is completed!"
Xiao Yu smiled and said to the guests: "Thank you for taking the time out of your busy schedule to attend the crowning ceremony. I have prepared a wine banquet. Please move to the banquet hall."
Everyone left the Xiao family ancestral hall chatting and laughing. Xiao Rui supported old Li Gang all the way. On the way, the old man asked with concern that he must pay attention to safety when traveling thousands of miles away in Youzhou.
After the banquet, the guests took their leave one after another. According to the etiquette, Xiao Yu personally sent old Li Gang out and rewarded him with a bundle of silk skins (five pieces of silk and two pieces of deer skin), and also gave some meat as a gift. Even Emperor Li Er did not receive these benefits.
From then on, Xiao Rui finally became a person with a name. From now on, among peers, whoever calls Xiao Rui will be disrespectful and must be called Zangfeng.
As the old saying goes: the name should be in correct form, and the word should be indicative of virtue. Names represent each other, so in ancient times, children were first given a nickname when they were born, and then they were given a big name. When they grew up, they were given a nickname, and they were combined into a given name. For example, Cao Cao of the Three Kingdoms: his nickname was Ah Ma, his first name was Cao, and when he became an adult, he took the pseudonym Mengde.
The rules of names lasted until the Republic of China. The New Culture Movement that began during the Republic of China was impacted by Western culture. The habit of using nicknames gradually disappeared. Many celebrities, such as Mr. Yang Zhenning, did not have a nickname.
Many modern families who are particular about their children also choose their children's first names. The older generation may explain that a name must have a Chinese character, and a Chinese person must have a first name. It is a kind of cultural inheritance.
The rules for choosing cousins are also very simple. Zhou Li said that the characters should be chosen according to the ranking of brothers: Bofu (Bo, Zhong, Shu, Ji). For example, Mr. Chen Duxiu's cousin: Zhongfu.
In addition, the way to choose the word is to interpret, extend or supplement the name. For example, Cao Cao, Cao means conduct, named Meng De, Meng means rank, De is a synonym of Cao, and it is often said that virtue and conduct come from this. Sun Quan, whose courtesy name was Zhongmou, was named Zhongshi. The word "mou" came from Quanmou. Li Bai's nicknames are Taibai, Du Mu, and Muzhi, all of which are extensions of his name.
Xiao Rui's Hidden Feng is the complement to the name Rui.
Of course, the ancients also paid attention to quoting scriptures when selecting characters. Most of the characters can basically be found in the meanings of ancient books. For example: Cao Cao's courtesy name is Meng De, and there is a sentence in "Xunzi" that says, "This is what I call virtue." The literary name of Lu Yu in the Tang Dynasty was named Hongjian, which is taken from the "Book of Changes": Hongjian was in Lu, and his feathers could be used as rituals.
There are also some names and characters that have opposite meanings. For example, the character Yuan Hui of Zhu Xi in the Song Dynasty, Xi and Hui are opposite meanings.
In ancient times, men had a crown ceremony, and women had a hairpin ceremony. Men were crowned when they were twenty, and women were crowned when they were fifteen (ji).
Hairpin ceremony is also a kind of ancient gift. It is a coming-of-age ceremony for Han women. Commonly known as "Shangtou" and "Shangtou ceremony". Hairpin, that is, hairpin. Since the Zhou Dynasty, it has been stipulated that aristocratic women should perform a hairpin ceremony after getting engaged (promising a marriage) and before getting married. It is usually held at the age of fifteen. If you have been waiting to marry and have no one to marry, the haircut ceremony can also be held at the age of twenty.
To receive a hairpin is to change the hair style of childhood during the hairpin ceremony, tie the hair into a bun, then wrap the bun with a piece of black cloth, and then insert the hairpin into the bun. The person who performs the hairpin ceremony is the female head of the family, and the invited female guest adds hairpin to the girl, indicating that the girl can get married when she reaches adulthood.
After aristocratic women receive hairpins, they usually receive adult education in the palace or clan, where they are taught "women's virtues, women's appearance, women's skills, women's speech", etc. As a daughter-in-law, they must have the moral courtesy to treat others, serve their aunts, and be courteous. This song is about female red labor and other skills. In later generations, it was changed to the girl's mother to give precepts and teach her etiquette, which was called "teaching tea".
Volume 89 of "Zhuzi Yulei" by Zhu Xi of the Song Dynasty: "[The crown ceremony] is a matter of one's own house. How difficult is it to do it? How difficult is it to close the door and give the scarf and crown to the children?" Therefore, in some areas, since the Song Dynasty, Since then, the ceremony has been simple, no guests were entertained, and it was only carried out within the family or within one's own home.
After the mid-Qing Dynasty, it was usually held a few days or the day before getting married.
After the crowning ceremony, Xiao Rui was ready to go on a long journey. Before leaving, I need to go to the palace to say goodbye to Xiangcheng, and at the same time discuss some matters in Youzhou with the emperor.
When Emperor Li Er heard him mention Liu Rengui, he suddenly thought, "Transfer Liu Rengui to the Yushitai? So this is the condition you said?"
Xiao Rui said with a smile: "I heard that Liu Rengui was born in Prince Qin's palace and was promoted and trained by His Majesty. I wonder if you are willing to do it?"
He didn't realize the conditions mentioned by the emperor, and the two of them just missed it. Otherwise, Old Wei would be doomed if they started to argue.
Lao Wei was doing his daughter's work at home at this time: "If you really have no choice but to marry Xiao Rui in this life, then this is your only chance. Whatever you choose, just don't regret it."
