Yang Dongxu of the Municipal People's Hospital was waiting in line with little Wenwu in his arms. The little one was not covered when he went to bed yesterday, and the air conditioner in the summer was not good for the body, so he caught a cold.
In terms of education, Yang Dongxu actually did not agree with Zhou Ya, and let his children compete for first place in everything. Bessie's absolutely elite education.
How old is Xiao Wenwu now?
I haven’t started kindergarten yet. I’ll just teach them numbers, a few ancient poems, and recognize some simple characters.
As a result, Bai Qian now started to train the little guy to play the piano, saying that his temperament was developed since childhood. In addition, he enrolled in some cram schools for infants and young children.
Are children going to school crazier now than in later generations?
Later generations will also crazily suppress their children's private time and hobbies at critical moments such as primary school, junior high school to high school, and high school to college.
Are children now being held hostage for making up extra classes?
Besides studying, Yang Dongxu also didn't like Baiqian's other elite teaching methods.
For example, when the little one is sick, the first thing Bessie thinks of is a private doctor. This is understandable. But being surrounded by a group of bodyguards every time you go out is actually a bit much.
This made Yang Dongxu couldn't help but think of the celebrities who were surrounded on three levels inside and outside three levels during filming in later generations, and who directly occupied the road in some public places.
The anger of being a poor loser in his heart almost burst out.
So as if he was willful, Yang Dongxu directly took the little guy to line up to see the doctor.
Instead of the family doctor coming to the home to diagnose the child and then prescribe medicines and injections, the parents put the child to sleep.
When I was holding the little one at the party, although the little one was a little sluggish due to life, his eyes were still looking around with novelty.
Yang Dongxu once again confirmed that Bai Qian's parenting style had simply trapped the child. She wrote down all her hopes for her son and all her plans for her son's future in a box, and then let the little guy move towards his goal step by step.
"Knowledge must be learned. I don't object. It is always beneficial to know more. But when you build your child's self-confidence, you also build his self-esteem.
Let's not make him feel that he is a higher level than others, and that he is different when he goes out to be a bodyguard in a luxury car. You need to let him have his own ideas and even his own wildness. What we have to do is to guide this wildness, rather than restrain this wildness and give him a new character. "
After getting the injection, Yang Dongxu sat in the back seat holding the little guy and said to Bai Qian next to him.
Bai Qian, who had always been obedient to her, curled her lips a bit at this time, obviously very unconvinced.
Because she is quite confident in the field of education. After all, counting from her grandfather, Baijia is already the third generation of her generation.
There has always been no problem with this education. Even if Baian seems to be a bit useless, he is still good enough among ordinary people.
He is useless just because he contrasts too much with the people around him.
Look who is compared with him?
Bai Qian, the strong woman known as the Hundred Queen, and Yang Dongxu, who could be said to be a self-made man, was able to stand on an equal footing with the head of a big family in his thirties.
If you compare it to the top, you won't compare it with Bianhan's father who has no great achievements at all. You will directly compete with Bianhan.
The first thing he said was, if you were half as capable as your grandfather, you would be able to do anything.
But is Baian really so incompetent?
The undergraduate diploma from other universities was a real test without any backdoor, and it was in the early 1990s when the bachelor's degree was very valuable. It was already at the top of the list.
Therefore, Bai Qian is very confident in Baijia's educational philosophy, not to mention that Xiao Wenwu's education was upgraded based on Baijia's educational philosophy.
"Like Wen Chen, let's educate them separately. You take care of your children's studies, and I'll take care of their daily play and character development."
At this point, Yang Dongxu couldn't help but think of the scene where he and Zhou Ya were arguing about how to raise their son Wenchen.
So I simply followed this routine and put it on my son.
Since both parties feel that they are right, let each side take charge.
"What's wrong with elite education? Not to mention those big financial families abroad, even in China, everyone wants their children to follow the elite route."
"I didn't say that the elite route is bad, but you are obviously going too far. And what you must not admit is that the so-called elite route can only cultivate talents above the average level most of the time.
Do you know how the chances of truly producing top talents compare with the number of people who go to jail?
The latter is far superior to the former, just because they are elites, so they accept more temptations. You can't let him feel that he is superior to others. When he makes a mistake in the future, he will still feel that he is superior. If he hurts an inferior person, he will not have to pay for it. "
"I didn't raise my son like this. He played very well with the children in the kindergarten. He often visited the children's homes, and they also came to our home." Bai Qian felt that Yang Dongxu had distorted his educational philosophy.
"You didn't educate him like this, but the environment you created for him was like this. And you planned everything for him. Is it really what he wanted?
In other words, will everything you plan for him now be in line with the era when he grew up?
So again, I have no objection to learning knowledge. This will never be outdated. But when it comes to shaping a child's character, your business is not education. The child must be beaten. "
"You let your children play wildly, take them to the fields to catch rabbits, go fishing, and make them feel like a monkey, just by beating them for education?"
"I know you want to raise your child to be a gentleman and don't want him to be too vulgar? But do you know that sometimes being a bit of a rogue can actually lead to better outcomes and more comfort than being a gentleman?
Don't think that you have suffered a lot and suffered a lot of grievances. So I didn’t want my child to suffer these grievances and suffer, so I gave him all-round protection.
Such a child will have no future when he grows up, and don't tell me that you don't need him to have any future. As long as he is a gentleman and can live his life happily. All fools know that it is a crime to possess a jade.
And being a gentleman is your request for your child, and this request is not your original intention. Just because your child is a gentleman, you can show off to other parents and have people praise your son for his potential. "
"I didn't." Bai Qian shouted, but her voice trailed off as soon as she shouted. She glanced at her son, who was still sleeping in Yang Dongxu's arms, and glared at her man fiercely.
"Yes, but you didn't notice it. In fact, it's not just you, many parents of children have this problem. For example, if your child scores first in the exam, you will be very happy.
Then other parents will praise your child for being the first, and you will feel more respectable. Then he told his children to study hard and take the first place in the exam next time. This is actually mixed with personal vanity. "
"My son is number one in the exam. Is it wrong for me to be proud?"
"That's right, I'm also happy that my son got first place in the exam. What I mean is, you can't force your child to get first place in the exam next time just because of this happiness. If he gets second place in the exam, you'll be cold-hearted and cold-faced.
As for this cold nose and cold face, in addition to the decline in the child's test scores. There is another parent whose child is the first in the exam and is smiling happily in front of you. Are you very unconvinced? Yang Dongxu asked.
"I know what you said makes sense, but isn't this human nature? And what's wrong with being a gentleman? Why should you act like a gangster when you can obviously be a humble gentleman?
I know what you're saying. Gentlemen tend to suffer. Sometimes gangsters do take advantage. But who told you that I only teach my son to be a gentleman and not to teach him scheming and tactics? "Bai Qian looked at Yang Dongxu like an idiot.
She is also someone who has experienced severe beatings from society. Doesn’t she know that gentlemen in this world suffer a lot?
She indeed hopes that her son will live a happy life, which is the common wish of every parent.
But she also understands that it is a crime to possess a treasure, and she is now starting to train her son to learn more, just to disguise and protect herself in the future. She will give her son the appearance of a gentleman, but she will also give him a knife.
"What you are talking about is the superstructure. What I am talking about is laying a solid foundation for my son. A person with an open-minded character and a strong will.
Only then can I include all the gentlemen and knives you want. Without strong enough nerves and an open-minded mentality, do you know that if something is slightly wrong, the child's heart will become distorted?
You have been tempered by society, so you know when to be reasonable and when to use the knife.
Has he been tempered by society? You teach him how to be a gentleman and how to stab a knife at the same time. Such contradictory theories appear on a piece of white paper at the same time. Do you want your child to have schizophrenia? "
"I'm not teaching them together. I'm just cultivating the child's knowledge base now, and I'll teach him step by step when he gets older." Bai Qian retorted still unconvinced.
"Do you know why the proportion of homosexuals with high education is much higher than that of ordinary people? Do you know the proportion of suicide and why the social elite is higher than the working people?"
"Uh..." Bai Qian's expression paused.
"Knowledge and personal recuperation, character, and three views are completely different things. But these things are related to each other and grow together.
It doesn’t mean that you only teach your children knowledge. What they gain is only their knowledge reserve. When learning knowledge, his age is growing and his character is maturing.
Every day when he goes out, he sees different people and encounters different things. These affect children all the time, and they don’t exist if you don’t teach them.
So you can’t ignore other aspects just because you want your children to learn knowledge. You can't teach your son to hold a knife just because you think he can learn to hold a knife.
Before you get it, why should you get a knife and when should you draw it. When is holding a knife more intimidating than drawing it? The foundation must be laid in advance.
It doesn’t mean that you feel that he is old enough to learn this, then plant a seed, water it and it will grow. There is a high chance that it will grow crooked. Do you know that he will chop with a knife without any scruples? "
"I teach knowledge. Every day my son knows a few words, which is visible growth. You play with your son and go crazy, and what do you teach?" Bai Qian was still unconvinced.
"Whether a person becomes a talent or not depends on how many poems I learned today and how much strength I will gain by learning that boxing technique tomorrow. The conditions are clearly divided.
Things must be learned, this is the basis. But the foundation is just the foundation. The accumulation of the laid foundations to cause qualitative changes is the key to success.
You can see Wen Chen if it is useful for me to teach my children this way. Zhou Ya would occasionally take him to teaching places during holidays.
When he gave his children his toys, he never looked at them from a superior perspective. Instead, he played wildly with the poor children.
He would also donate his pocket money, but after donating all the 100 yuan pocket money Zhou Ya gave him for the first time.
He didn't eat ice cream for a month because the one hundred yuan was Zhou Ya's share of buying ice cream for him for a month. So when he donates for the second time, he will only donate 50.
Then he uses the other 50 to sell ice cream and eat it with the children. He is caring because not all children can give up half of the ice cream.
He also has his own selfish side, so he spends 50 yuan to buy ice cream for everyone to eat together. While he is helping others, he can also enjoy himself.
You can say it's clever, or you can say it's not pure enough. But I think this is good, just help as much as possible. I admire such people who give everything, but I will not let my son be such a person. "
Bai Qian was silent and didn't speak.
Yang Dongxu continued, "What you are teaching civil and martial arts now is to make him a gentleman who will give the last dime in his pocket to a beggar even if he only has a dime in his pocket.
And when you teach him to hold a knife after a while, you will teach him that even if he has 1 million in his pocket, he will not want to give him a dollar when he meets a beggar. Because the person holding the knife must be ruthless and selfish.
This kind of teaching is correct for ordinary people, because they start too low and want to move up and break the class monopoly. Both knowledge and force must be taken to extremes.
Because they need to have a certain skill to stand out from the crowd of ordinary people. My son doesn't need this, they don't need to go to extremes because his father has given him the best possible starting point.
What he needs to do is that as long as he is not crazy and has normal outlook on life, he can already win. Of course, you must still be holding the knife. Winning by lying down does not mean resting on your laurels. You must also have the ability and strength to swing the knife when others attack.
But you can’t train him just to train him to hold a knife. It was okay when he was a child, but his child is about to enter the rebellious period of youth. Are you sure you can still suppress his character? "
"I can't change the child's rebellious character, but you can."
"I can't change it either." Yang Dongxu said.
Bai Qian gave him a blank look, "If you can't change it, why are you talking nonsense?"
"I can't change it, but I can influence it. For example, when our son was rebellious, he made a friend. We all know that this friend can't tell him not to associate with him.
But he definitely didn't listen because he was in the rebellious stage. At this time, you can give him a sum of money first to let him and this friend live freely.
And after the money is spent, directly block his economy. Let him spend his friends' money. The loyalty of young people. I have money for everyone to spend. If I don't have money, can you also give me money to spend?
When a friend spends our son’s money but doesn’t want to give him money to spend. He will see this person clearly. "
"The other party knows that our family is rich and deliberately approaches our son to set a trap for our son. How can he be exposed so easily by you?"
"Then don't expose it and let him continue to cheat. If you are not satisfied with one million, let him cheat with 10 million. If you are not satisfied with 10 million, let him cheat with 100 million.
With 100 million, do you think he will leave our son directly and become a handsome father, or continue to be a dog in front of our son?
He has me as an old man. As long as his three views are correct, he has been deceived countless times and has the capital to get up again after falling. And the more the other party cheats on such things, the greater the success rate of our son's one-time transformation. "
The corner of Yang Dongxu's mouth showed absolute confidence.
Bai Qian glanced at her man and said nothing.
He didn't ask what he would do if he kept lying to his son for the rest of his life.
Will my son never grow up?
Let’s not talk about the son’s growth process. Perhaps he can understand many truths without being deceived and beaten by society.
If you really encounter a situation where you have been lying to me, do you really think that Mr. Yang, who is my father, is a vegetarian?
Yang Dongxu has kept a low profile in recent years, but with such a huge family fortune, do you really think that Yang Dongxu is as harmless as he appears?
Are all the methods he learned from Mr. Xuan going to waste when he was young?
There was silence in the car. After a moment, Yang Dongxu thought of something: "You are teaching your son to be so extreme now. Is it because I rarely come to accompany my son? Are you using this method to let me control my son?"
The more I thought about Yang Dongxu, the more I felt it was possible. Otherwise, with Bai Qian's intelligence, she wouldn't have done such an extreme thing.
Bai Qian was silent and didn't speak.
"Speak directly next time if you have something to say, and don't use my son as a pawn in temptation."
"You think I think you only come to see your son a few times a year? You don't spend as much time with your son as your parents do?"
"Why don't you say that before Wen Chen went to kindergarten, he was taken care of by Zhou Ya in his hometown, and I didn't spend much time with him in a year?"
"Huh." Bai Qian snorted and stopped talking.
Obviously she knew she was wrong in this regard, but she would still do it for the sake of her son.
A woman's mentality is definitely different when she has a child than when she doesn't have a child.
She didn't want to compete with Zhou Ya for Yang Dongxu's position, nor did she want her son to compete for any family property, but fatherly love could not favor one over another.
"As a woman, won't I feel sorry for my son?" Yang Dongxu glared at Bai Qian angrily.
