After New Year's greetings, it's almost dawn. Then I go home, pick up the paper, and run to start worshiping ancestors on the first day of the new year. In the past, women visiting graves were not allowed to enter the grounds, not even children.
Only when visiting relatives and returning to the family home, the whole family can visit the graves of deceased elders together, so that the deceased ancestors can see that their descendants are full of children and grandchildren.
However, these customs have loosened somewhat in the past two years, and some girls who are more delicate will help their fathers to go to the grave together. The fathers of the younger generation must have relaxed a little, but they were stared back by the older grandparents.
But this kind of persistence may not last for a few more years. When the older generation passes away in a few years, or is in poor health and cannot walk around the village to visit the graves, the fathers of the younger generation will become the mainstay of the family. The trend will become more and more relaxed, but it is certain that it will not work now.
After walking around for a while, people who had eaten dumplings in the middle of the night were not very hungry, so they seldom had breakfast. Instead, he felt that he was in good spirits after resting in the middle of the night, so he went to the granary to continue fighting.
The entire New Year's Day is a time for indulgence. On this day, you are not allowed to rummage through boxes and cabinets, you are not allowed to cook with knives, you can only eat dumplings prepared in advance, and you are not allowed to wash dishes or pots. In short, you are hardworking and hardworking. A farmer for a year can only experience what it feels like to be a lazy man on this day.
Yang Dongxu would definitely not go back to play cards. He stayed up until two o'clock in the night and had not slept for a few hours. He was pulled out of bed to pay New Year's greetings and worship his ancestors. At this time, as soon as he relaxed a little, his eyelids felt heavy, so he prepared Go back and catch up on some sleep.
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On the second day of the new year, I visit relatives. On days when there are many relatives, I visit several houses. For example, I eat at one house in the morning and then go to another house at noon. Visiting relatives is not allowed in the evening. This is the rule.
The Yang family has many relatives, except for the seven aunts and eight aunts, because the Yang family has been doing well in these years, and it is getting better and better.
So some less important relatives also left, such as my uncle's brother's family and so on. Under normal circumstances, relatives in rural areas are relatively close to their fathers. For example, if Yang Dongxu calls him uncle, he is Yang's father's uncle, and if Yang Dongxu calls him aunt, he belongs to his mother's aunt.
Nowadays, the main force visiting relatives is Father Yang and Mother Yang with their children, so these relatives still have to go. But grandma and grandpa basically don’t visit relatives anymore.
Therefore, the relatives of their generation, such as grandma's cousins and Yang's father, are not so close. When I was young, grandma would go back to her parents' home and take her father with her for a while.
Now that grandma is getting older, she returns to her parents' home less often, and some people have passed away. Although the relationship with these brothers and sisters is still there, it feels a bit far away. So generally this relationship will become weaker and weaker.
Rural people often say that only people with five generations of relatives can get married, but in fact, the relationship between three generations is almost a bit weak.
For example, Yang Dongxu feels close to his mother's natal family, whether it is his second grandfather, his younger grandfather, or his eldest aunt and second aunt's family. But I don’t have much affection for my great-grandfather who is further away, or my uncle who is just one level away. There is only one level of affection for each generation.
However, due to the current situation of the Yang family, most of these relatives are still walking around. After all, people come to the door with bags every year. If you don't go back and walk around, you will be embarrassed. It is easy to be put on by others. When you are rich, you forget about your poor relatives. The hat of being rich and unkind.
It doesn't matter whether you eat or not, you must carry a bag. For example, when I go to my uncle's house, I have to carry a bunch of big and small bags every year. First, I carry them all to my uncle's house, and then Father Yang takes the three brothers and sisters to deliver them to each family. The meals must be eaten at my uncle's house, but the bags must be delivered to others. This is also a kind of etiquette.
Because my grandpa and grandma are still alive, the whole family went out together on the third day of the Lunar New Year. This year, my uncle Shengli’s family is hosting guests for dinner, so it’s okay not to leave anyone at home.
But usually, Dad Yang comes back early after dinner at grandpa’s house at noon. After all, relatives are not around during the meal, so he must accompany him after the meal, because my aunt also has to go to her parents’ house on the third day of the new year, and in the afternoon We also have to go to the fields to visit graves together.
The third day of junior high school can be said to be the most lively time at my grandma and grandpa's house. There are four daughters and sons-in-law, plus a dozen grandchildren, and great-grandchildren and great-granddaughters, and dozens of people are very lively.
In fact, on the third day of the Lunar New Year, my cousin should have taken his daughter-in-law back to his wife's parents' house, but I don't know if it was because Yang Dongxu would come to his grandparents' house on the third day of the Lunar New Year.
Therefore, all relatives who can come on this day will come, and even my cousin will come with her whole family. This way, we can entertain them all at once, and avoid the trouble of visiting grandparents separately.
After a while, either the little kid was crying, or the other kid was beaten. Especially Ran Hao, the kid from my grandpa's family, who was just ten years old this year when he was naughty and mischievous. He took the lead and led a group of little kids crazy because this was his home court. After being caught and beaten severely by my little grandpa, he hid aside and wiped his tears.
As a result, before the tears were dry, some six or seven-year-old children from my cousin's family went crazy with a long stick used as a golden hoop. First, they went to the small shop in the village to get a bunch of snacks, and then walked to I threw firecrackers into the ditch of the old house in the village to see if I could explode a few monsters, so that I could show off my skills in slaying demons.
"Follow them and make sure no one falls into the ditch. There is still a lot of water in the ditch now?" Yang's mother came out of the kitchen and yelled at Yang Dongxu.
The daughter cooks, the men drink tea and chat, and take care of the children are naturally the tasks of the idle third generation, so they can only smoke cigarettes with a few cousins and watch these naughty children from a distance. .
During the meal, Father Yang and his brothers-in-law and uncles and grandfathers shared a table, the younger generation shared a table, several cousins shared a table, and the younger children shared another table. It was very noisy and lively.
After dinner, the youngest children received their New Year's money. The children, who were originally all kinds of naughty and mischievous, knelt in front of the two old people, shouting "grandma" and "grandpa" to receive the red envelopes. After receiving the red envelopes, they rushed over without even noticing. a.
Yang Dongxu and Zhou Ya got a big red envelope this year because they just got married. After they have children, the red envelope will belong to the child and nothing will happen to them.
In addition to the New Year's money given by parents, in fact, under normal circumstances, when you visit relatives when you are sixteen or seventeen years old, the elders will not give New Year's money. One is because the child is already older and there is no need to give it anymore, and the other is naturally that he is an adult and is too embarrassed to ask for it.
The hustle and bustle ended after visiting the grave. The best time was for these cousins to go to Yang's house together on the sixth day of the Lunar New Year. Then the adults grabbed the children who were having fun here and didn't want to go home and put them in the car.
Yang Dongxu had a headache when a group of relatives came over to drink. He felt dizzy every day, and Zhou Ya didn't drink and knew how to drive. Otherwise, it would be embarrassing if someone had to send the drink back.
Such days lasted until the tenth day of the Lunar New Year, and then Yang Dongxu and Zhou Ya began to pack their bags and prepare to return to Yanjing to start their second wedding banquet.
Yang's mother originally thought that since it was a wedding banquet, it would be too shabby and impolite if there were no elders present, but when Yang Dongxu said that it was just a treat for friends to have a meal, there was no need to worry about it. The two of them probably wouldn't even wear a dress by then, just one person. A simple gathering makes me feel at ease.
Zhou Yiren was persuaded by Yang Dongxu to stay in Yangjiacun with old man Xuan. This old man who was always busy could not stop. After he heard that his daughter was pregnant, he would be able to see his grandson or granddaughter in the second half of this year.
Finally, I felt that there really seemed to be some minor problems with my body and bones. I might not be able to bear the children's fuss by then, so I agreed to stay in Yangjiacun to recuperate my body.
As for the handover of work, in fact, almost all of it was handed over a year ago, and the remaining trivial matters are the same whether they are handed over or not. In order to prevent his father-in-law from being unable to escape once he returned to Yanjing, any matters that really needed to be handed over were handed over over the phone.
"Does it really take that long?" After more than half a month of despair, Zhou Ya, who got on the plane, seemed to have found the working status of the strong woman years ago in an instant. She watched Yang Dongxu snatch the various documents in his hand and throw them to On the side, Zhou Ya pursed her lips and wanted to relax, but she couldn't.
"It's been so long. Mr. Sun has said that accidents are most likely to happen in the first two months of pregnancy. So you must not be too tired during these two months. I will handle the matter. You stay with me. If there is anything you can't do, You can give me advice on good things, so that you don’t have to work too hard, and you can rest assured that you are by your side for many things, so as not to affect your mood.”
What's it like to be a dad for the first time?
First the surprise was a bit incredible, but what next? I'm not as helpless as I imagined, or so happy that I can't help myself. Perhaps this is because the child has not been born, and because Zhou Ya is newly pregnant, it is estimated that there is only a fertilized egg in Zhou Ya's belly that has just begun to develop, and she does not have a clear sense of blood, so Yang Dongxu's mentality is relatively stable.
"But there are so many things going on abroad..." Zhou Ya still couldn't let go.
But before she could finish speaking, Yang Dongxu interrupted: "Haven't you already hired a lot of professional managers? Since they have been given such high salaries, they must show their corresponding abilities.
At present, the situation in the country is relatively stable, and the economic environment is not too turbulent. In such an environment, they can't handle the company's affairs well, so they might as well get out early. If this batch doesn't work, just fire it and replace it with another batch. Anyway, as long as the general direction is good, there is no harm in occasional business fluctuations. "
Although she was relatively calm because the child was not born yet, facing Zhou Ya, who was her first pregnancy, she couldn't be too cautious. If Zhou Ya hadn't disagreed, Yang Dongxu would have wanted to let Aunt Hua or Cui Ma watch him 24 hours a day and protect him with a higher level of protection than the national treasure panda.
Even if it feels wrong to do so, I understand that pregnant women are not as delicate as they think. But I can't help but want to do this. When walking on the road, I will kick away every stone I see for fear of tripping. When I see steps, I will think about whether Zhou Ya will slip and fall if she steps on them.
He also knew that this was because his nerves were too tense. At this time, not only Zhou Ya, who was pregnant, needed to keep a stable mentality, but he also needed to keep a stable mentality, but he couldn't help but think about what he could do.
