Chapter 515: How to survive the family
"Father-in-law, it seems this is the first time for these three old people to come here." Qin An asked, pointing to Gan Mao and the other three.
Qin An saw that Gan and Mao were all very energetic. The clothes they wore were not made in his own workshop, and the fabrics were all made of silk.
This shows that the three of them are either rich or noble. It will definitely not be that simple for Ying Zheng to ask them to come.
Ying Zheng smiled and said, "You are right. All three of them are here for the first time. One of them is a descendant of Mencius, one is a descendant of Gan Mao, and the other is a descendant of Bai Qi.
You can call them Lao Bai, Lao Gan, and Lao Meng.
The reason I came with me this time is to learn from your skills. They all have great families and great businesses, but they are afraid that their descendants will lose their families, so they come to the village hoping that you can give them some advice. "
Qin An thought for a while and said: "What's the idea? Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings. Don't worry too much about the elders. The elders only need to be fair and just."
A big family and a big business means a large population. When the population is large, there will be fights. When the population increases, the family will be divided into the main family and the branch family, that is, the main family and the second family. Over time, the main family will permanently occupy the position of the head of the family.
As for the second room, it was okay in the first few years, but after a few decades, or a hundred years, the second room became an existence like a low-life underground person.
Just like the royal family, after the prince succeeds to the throne, the remaining princes and princes are treated well when they become emperor.
But after the prince died and the new emperor ascended the throne, this group of imperial uncles declined. If not, they would definitely decline in a hundred years. This is human nature.
So if you want a family to exist forever, don't just focus on the main house, which is the first house, but give the second house a chance.
Let’s just talk about me. I will have three children. I will divide my property equally among the three children, or I will give it to them more favorably than others due to ability issues.
But all three of them will have a chance to stand out in their own right. "
Gan Mao asked with a smile: "What if someone fails because of this?"
"It can only be said that he is not capable, but at this time he is already an independent family, and he can no longer rely on his brothers, so even if he fails, he will not starve to death. At most, he will become a poor man, no. He cannot be regarded as a poor.
But compared with the previous life, it has become relatively poor. "
Meng Xifan thought about it and said, "Sir, what you mean is to give every descendant a chance to develop? Whether it succeeds or not depends entirely on them."
"Yes." Qin An said, "Now in China, members of real aristocratic families are spread all over the world.
Tens of thousands of people came to pay homage to their ancestors at one time. Although there was still a clan leader, the clan leader only managed some chores of the family and would not interfere in any way with the lives of the clan members.
Of course, if someone breaks the law, the clan leader has the right to expel him from the clan, but he may not be punished in any way.
Therefore, if I have the ability to develop my own family, I will give every descendant a chance.
Give them the opportunity to develop on their own. If they succeed, they will be able to stand out. If they fail, they will become ordinary people.
As the heads of a large family, the three of you must be thinking about letting your eldest son or grandson inherit the family business. "
"Isn't this what it should be?" Meng Xifan said.
"There is nothing that should or should not be done." Qin An said, "Everyone has their own point of view. My point of view is to give every clan a chance.
Your point of view is that the eldest son and direct grandson inherit the family business, and some people pass the family business to the younger generation with outstanding ability.
It doesn't matter whether this person is one's own biological child, as long as he is a member of one's own family. "
Bai Siqi said: "Sir, what you said makes sense, and we all agree with it. However, it is unrealistic for us to distribute the industry to our own clansmen. I don't know if there are other ways to keep our family together." exist?"
Qin An frowned slightly and said, "This is a very demanding request, and it is very difficult to achieve."
"It's hard to do,
Doesn't mean it can't be done, right? Meng Xifan asked.
Qin An nodded and said: "Theoretically, it is not impossible for a family to exist for a long time, it is very possible, but it is difficult for a family to always have family rule and let other clan members make selfless contributions.
Everyone has selfish motives, even me, I also have selfish motives.
For example, I am a member of your family, but I am a collateral descendant, but my ability is very powerful, more powerful than the eldest son and direct grandson.
I would like to ask, when the head of the family does not want to take a fancy to me, should I be decadent, leave the family and start my own business, or simply hate you in my heart and think of a conspiracy to seize the family inheritance? "
When talking about the conspiracy, Meng Xifan, Bai Siqi and Gan Mao were all shocked at the same time, and their backs couldn't help but get wet.
They are not afraid that the second brother will become decadent, nor are they afraid that the second brother will leave the family, but they are afraid that the second brother will cause destruction within the family.
Qin An continued: "If you want to change this process, there are only two ways. One is what I said, give everyone a chance.
The second is to formulate family rules and give family members a unified idea of the family. "
"What does this have to do with national unification?" Ying Zheng asked.
"Father-in-law, these two concepts are completely different. The unification of the country can unite the strength of the whole country, and the orders of the country are almost all equal.
People's lives are related to their own abilities. In addition, when people are in trouble, the country can call on others to help people in need.
But the family is different. What the family basically requires is the contribution of the clan members, but the family only provides some benefits to the clan members. Sometimes the contributions and benefits are not equal.
Secondly, the state is public and the family is private.
Therefore, families are always selfish. If we want to survive forever, I value ideological unity more than formal family unity.
As long as everyone in the tribe has one goal in mind and works hard to grow the family, what does it matter whether they live in the same place or whether they have separated families?
The so-called family separation is just a division of property. Their family ties and family responsibilities are not divided. After my three children are separated in the future, they will still remember that their surname is Qin, and they know that they have brothers. They still remember They want to develop Qin'an.
And I will also set rules for them, such as helping family members if they are in trouble.
If a tribesman is bullied, he must help; if a tribesman is causing harm to the country, he must be eliminated; if a tribesman deceives other tribesmen, he must be eliminated.
There are also moral kidnappings, unreasonable troubles, etc. These family rules not only restrain the clan members, but also allow the family members to live in harmony and allow them to grow individually, while also strengthening the family.
If you want to truly make your family last forever, you must keep pace with the times, not go against the country or the people, be kind to others, and be on good terms with the country. "
