Haitang quickly understood why Peng Yuqi was depressed.
Her parents were a loving couple, and she was the only daughter they had been married to for twenty years, and they never considered taking concubines and having children. Her mother passed away and her father had no intention of renewing their relationship. Girls who grow up in such a family will not lack love and warmth in their lives. But after she lost her mother, her grandmother and uncle, who were supposed to provide her with family comfort, only cared about their own interests and ignored her grief. Naturally, she was severely hit.
Considering Mrs. Peng's filial piety towards her biological mother, her father and daughter heard that Grandma Jin was ill. Even though they knew that the Jin family had ulterior motives, they still chose to let Peng Yuqi travel more than 2,000 miles to attend to the illness. This decision was undoubtedly risky, but Peng Tongzhi did it anyway. Peng Yuqi accepted her father's arrangement, but how could she get close to her mother-in-law who secretly plotted against her and her father?
It was just a matter of being accompanied by her friends on the road. Now she was getting closer to Chang'an day by day, and she was about to meet her uncle with ulterior motives. Even if she was in a good mood, she was now feeling depressed.
Haitang couldn't interfere in other people's family backgrounds. After figuring out Peng Yuqi's worries, she could only comfort her: "It's okay, just take care of your grandma. You are close, you can always figure out whether she is really sick or fake." It’s clear. Even if their family has really bad intentions, they can’t do anything bad to you unless they want to offend your father to death. When your grandma’s illness is cured, you’ll have a reason to say goodbye and leave!”
Peng Yuqi curled her lips and said: "Grandma also said that she would keep me by her side to educate me. I will stay in Chang'an for at least two years. My father doesn't plan to marry again, so naturally he can't find a suitable person to educate me, otherwise he won't Will they really let me live with my grandma? I'm not afraid that the Jin family dares to do anything bad to me. There are so many people around me! Besides, I'm not someone to be bullied. If they dare to plot against me, I'll beat them back. !”
Haitang raised her eyebrows and smiled.
Although this little girl was a bit mournful and had the misfortune to meet a family member who wanted to plot against her, she was not a delicate young lady who could be manipulated by others. The tiger girl of Jiangmen chased people for more than a thousand miles on horseback, and there was no shortage of helpers around her. How could she be easily tricked by others?
Haitang gave her an idea: "If their family follows the rules and just wants you to spend more time with your cousin and fall in love as time goes by, then you should politely tell them the rules and talk about the differences between men and women. Son, don't let your cousin have the opportunity to get close. If he shows any shortcomings later, if you criticize a few more words, you will have reason to reject the marriage. If you hear about any marriage between cousins or cousins in Chang'an, the child will be born. Rumors that the child is not very smart can also be used as a reason for rejection."
Peng Yuqi hurriedly said: "You also know this statement? My mother once said so. But it was not entirely because of this that she refused to marry me to my cousin. She knew my cousin's temperament and felt that he was not compatible with me. It’s appropriate, but I also feel that my aunt is not a kind person and is afraid that I will be wronged in the Jin family!”
"That would be better!" Haitang said, "Since your mother thinks that your aunt and cousin are not harmonious and inappropriate, they will show these shortcomings sooner or later. If you use these as reasons to make your father refuse the marriage, you Grandma has nothing to say. This is not because you dislike his family, but because your aunt and cousin failed to live up to their expectations and showed their shortcomings and asked others to talk about it. If your grandma still wants to beat you together like this, then It's just that she is too partial and doesn't really love your mother and you. Then you and your father will have even more reasons to reject the marriage."
Peng Yuqi took a serious look at Haitang: "Sister Hai, I think that although you are young, you are more knowledgeable than other older people! When others hear that my grandmother wants to match up my cousin, they won't think that it is my grandmother and my cousin. My uncle was selfish, but he thought it was a good thing. They said, I have no brothers. If my father passes away in the future, I will have no one to rely on. If I marry into another family, I am afraid I will be bullied. The Jin family is my mother's mother-in-law. He is my closest relative. If I marry my cousin and have my grandmother and uncle as my backers, I will be considered stable. Even if my father regrets in the future and wants to marry another wife and have a son to inherit the family business, I am not afraid. I have no support. Those people are trying to persuade my father to agree to this marriage, but you are the only one who will tell me to find a reason to reject the marriage."
Her father decided to send her back to Chang'an decisively, not entirely because the Jin family was pressing hard and Grandma Jin was very "sick". The comments of people around her were also an important reason for him to send his daughter away.
Many people were interested in her father, who had a high official position and was capable, not too old, and had a rich family, but he had no sons. They wanted to pull strings to help her father find a matchmaker and get another wife. Her mother had just passed away less than a year ago, and those people were quite restrained in speaking. They only talked about her lack of upbringing and lack of supervision at home, under the guise of worrying about her, but in fact they were trying to set up a matchmaker for the future. Foreshadowing. What's even more outrageous is that some people who rely on their elders will come up to her and accuse her of being willful and unfilial, saying that if she was really filial to her father, she shouldn't have stopped him from remarrying, and even actively persuaded her father to find a son.
Both she and her father found these people disgusting.
However, there are still some people who really feel that they have good intentions, so they come to persuade her to be wary of possible stepmothers in the future, and to be on the safe side, choose her maternal family as her in-laws.
Some people think that an aunt is more reliable as a stepmother than an outsider. If her mother's sisters have girls who have not yet left the court, it would be most appropriate to marry them to Peng Tongzhi to fill the house. They can also give birth to sons for the Peng family and take good care of them. Peng Yuqi, this is the best of both worlds. Some people are also worried that she lost her mother at a young age. If she does not have a virtuous stepmother to bring her up, she may be criticized for being the "eldest daughter of a widow" when talking about marriage in the future.
Such people's words are unpleasant to listen to, but they are not malicious, and it is difficult for the father and daughter to refute them. Peng Tongzhi simply sent his daughter away, and found another reason to go out on patrol, hiding as far away as possible.
Peng Yuqi had been holding back a lot of anger since she left home. Although she could talk to her best friend Zhou Wenjun, because the people who persuaded her father to renew their relationship were Zhou Wenjun's parents and relatives, she had scruples and didn't even think about it. It's a happy idea. It wasn't until she was talking to Haitang alone today that she found someone she could truly confide in.
Haitang said this is a normal thing. She has seen a lot of cruel things in the past, so where is this?
She said to Peng Yuqi: "These days, many people think that it is better to have more kisses, but if the blood relationship between husband and wife is too close, it is easy to give birth to children with imperfect health. There are many similar examples, but not everyone will encounter them, and it is inevitable that they will happen. Some people are born with a sense of luck. But others are lucky not to have a problem child when they marry close relatives. How can we guarantee that we will be equally lucky? If we really have an unhealthy child, the whole family will have to deal with it. Painful. It’s not like you can’t get married, so why take this risk? I don’t know your grandma and uncle, I only know you. Naturally, I hope that everything will go well for you in the future. So I will advise you not to marry your cousin. When you get married, no one knows whether you will encounter that eventuality."
As for whether Peng Yuqi's father wants to marry again and who he should marry...that is all his freedom. He can decide this matter after discussing it with his daughter. Others think they care, and no matter how much they say to persuade, it is just "persuading".
Who can guarantee that the Jin family will treat Peng Yuqi well if they marry her?
Who dares to say that if Peng Tongzhi remarries a daughter of the Jin family, he will not be selfish and treat his stepdaughter harshly?
Who dares to say that the wife Peng Tongzhi remarries must be virtuous and virtuous, which will be beneficial to Peng Yuqi's future marriage?
If something goes wrong, only the Peng family and his daughter will suffer. Can the person who persuaded them in the first place still take responsibility?
Therefore, just make decisions according to your own wishes. Don't take it too seriously when outsiders say it, because you are always living your life by yourself.
(End of chapter)
